Feelings Post-Miscarriage
“I am faking it pretty well, but honestly- I am completely overwhelmed and devastated. I have a child who I love, but my heart has a hole for another.”
The Pain of Miscarriage
“I’m terrified if I get pregnant again and have another miscarriage I will add ‘recurrent miscarriage’ to the already long list of my infertility diagnosis”
No Right Way to Do This
Some people grieve for months or years over their 10 week miscarriage and find the whole process so traumatic that they will never try again. And some don’t.
Body Shaming & Loss
It’s hard enough to deal with fertility issues, but when that loss is coupled with body shaming, it makes the loss feel a million times worse.
Cabbage Leaves
“I don’t think I can ever look at a cabbage again without thinking about the milk that came in after my second trimester miscarriages.”
My Marriage Fell Apart
So many of you have written about your relationships and marriages being strained through the journey of infertility or after a loss, that it’s worth mentioning here.
IVF & Marriage
“I’ve never told a single soul this, but the biggest reason I don’t want to do IVF is because I don’t think my marriage is strong enough to endure it.”
Purim Letter
I was sent this message on Purim, from Miriam Levin. Here is a heartbreaking letter to her stillborn daughter. “I wonder what costume you would choose...maybe a princess or a flower girl?”
Letter To My Daughter
“An open letter to my daughter: I see you. Or at least the pieces you want me to see. I have come to your house early in the morning for weeks and weeks, and I don’t ask questions.”
Holocaust Remembrance Day
Throughout history, we have been the target of discrimination, resettlements and massacres. Age gaps. Family size. The Holocaust. It all intertwines.”
Goodbye My Little Star
“Goodbye my little star Oh how I loved you I miss you Its time to say goodbyeI step into the dark night Looking up at the velvet sky Tiny spots of light twinkling above Goodbye my little star”
Stopping Treatment
Have you made the decision to stop treatment, for a little while or forever? What was your reasoning? How do you feel/did you feel when you stopped?
On Healing
Two stories on reslience and healing. Both stories highlight the strength and resilience needed to navigate challenging times and embrace the future with optimism.
Grief is Unique
Grief for each individual is unique. Do not judge the way someone else is manifesting their pain. With grief- there is no right way to feel.
I’m His Mother
Sending love to everyone today, whether your babies are here or there, in your arms or still in your minds. “Tonight I remember... It will stay with me forever...”
Shavuot Message
Sending love to all of you as we head into another holiday. Shavuos/Shavuot is the celebration of the time in our history when Gd gave the Old Testament to the Jewish people.
Sensitivity Guide
We can’t give you the answers on how to be sensitive to the people in your life who are struggling. Because people are complicated and their stories are even more complicated.
Grief Looks Like
““Grief looks like seeing the bottom of a pint of Ben & Jerrys in one sitting. Grief looks like crying in bed for hours on end. Grief looks like laughing with a group of friends.”
Circumstantial Infertility & Mental Health Medications
“This condition requires me to take medication. I would absolutely love to try to expand my family, but the medication I take isn't conducive to pregnancy.”
Circumstantial Infertility & Medical Clearance
“I don’t fit in with the ‘infertility’ per se, but because of my diagnosis I haven’t been allowed to try to get pregnant for the last 3.5 years.”