IVF & Marriage

“I’ve never told a single soul this, but the biggest reason I don’t want to do IVF is because I don’t think my marriage is strong enough to endure it.

Sometimes this makes me feel like a failure, and other times it makes me resent him for not being as supportive as I think he should be throughout this process so far, so there’s no way we could add IVF to the mix.

But then I think I’m to blame since I haven’t brought it up to him...but how does one even go about bringing that up?”

This topic has been one that resonates with so many of you. The majority infertility and loss community talks about the beautiful relationships between partners and how supportive they have been for each other. Because we all know that if it’s on Instagram, it must be true. 🧐

The reality is that this journey is really hard and people rarely talk about the silent treatment, feeling unseen and unheard, how to communicate difficult feelings, what to do when partners want different things or at a different timetable.

It’s all really hard.
And it’s okay to talk about it here.