“After our diagnosis of severe MFI (male factor infertility), I told my husband the ball was in his court, and if he wanted kids he needed to take control and figure things out.”

Regardless of whether it’s your “fault” or not, the emotional pain of infertility is very real for both partners.

Regardless of whether they ask for help or show their sadness, the men in your life need and deserve some TLC, too.Here are some ways you can support them today and every day.

To all of the men in the IWSTHAB community, we see you.

We NEVER want them to feel responsible or guilty. Because they aren’t. We protect them with our lives and love.

40-50% of infertility issues are because of a problem with the male. And of those, only a small percentage are open about it.

The one thing I keep hearing from all of you is how the diagnosis of #malefactorinfertility causes many men to question their masculinity.

Male factor infertility is quite common (some report it as high as 40-50%) of all infertility cases, yet it’s not discussed much in the support space.

How is that a merciful Gd? What did I ever do? All I have ever wanted in life is to be a father!’

First Person Account of Male infertility. When I started the topic of male factor infertility, a young Israeli couple offered to be interviewed about his/their experiences.

To all of the men in the IWSTHAB community, we see you.

And you are allowed to grieve too.

We've been sharing comments about how men feel when dealing with fertility struggles, and some definitely do not have the thicker skin that society expects of them. Here are a couple things you can say to get him out of a sticky situation.

Within a few months of marriage, we quickly realized something was not right. Based on what we learned in chosson (groom)/kallah (bride) classes we took before marriage, things weren’t happening the way they were biologically supposed to.

To all the men and all the women: it isn’t your fault and it isn’t mine.

We are in this together.

Some men cry, some men get angry, some men talk about their pain…And some men don’t.

And that is perfectly okay. Let him know you are there for him but then let him process in his own way. Even if that means that he doesn’t seem to process it at all.

Daniel Landau joins Aimee Baron, MD to talk about his story of needing to do IVF for genetic reasons and all the difficult emotions surrounding that and his path to starting an organization for solely to support men, Men's Helpline, which has a podcast, peer-to-peer support network other resources to help males in crisis.

Dr. Michael Werner, joins Aimee Baron, MD to talk about medical options for male infertility patients, ESSM, sperm mapping, Azoospermia and how those with this diagnosis actually do have viable sperm that can be found through various techniques.

Eli Weinstein, LMSW, joins Aimee Baron, MD to talk about his fertility journey, primary infertility due to a male and female factor, and how he coped with diagnosis and treatment.

Some men cry, some men get angry, some men talk about their pain… And some men don’t. And that is perfectly okay. Let him know you are there for him but then let him process in his own way. Even if that means that he doesn’t seem to process it at all.