Do not ask if anyone is fasting.
Tonight begins Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year.
And sometimes more than the themes of atonement and forgiveness, people tend to focus on the food...or lack thereof.
What are you eating pre-fast?
You’re not having bagels and lox after?
How about grapes or melon?
You like gatorade before?
I can’t even eat something heavy when it’s done...I only have soup.
It’s so hard. How much more time?
And on and on and on and on.
But more than that, all these questions assume that everyone fasts. Which is absolutely not the case.
So here’s a quick reminder that it’s none of your business if someone is or is not fasting.
So on behalf of everyone who doesn’t want to talk about it (in the fertility community and beyond - those with eating disorders or other mental/physical health challenges), please don’t ask.
Ever.
Yom Kippur | Jewish fast | infertility treatment | ttc | ivf | pregnancy announcement | fertility clinic | infertility journey
We are here for you
It’s that time again, and we know so many of you can’t help but take stock of where you are compared to where you hoped you would be.
Wherever you find yourself this yom tov (holiday) season, know we’re right here with you.
Bring the anger, bring the tears, bring the silence - because that counts as prayer too. And please be gentle with the part of you that’s hurting.
Yom Kippur | high holidays | forgiveness | ttc | miscarriage | primary infertility | Jewish women | Orthodox Jews
There is only your way
Sending my love to all of you for a peaceful, restful, shabbos.
And please be gentle with yourself xoxo
❤️ Aimee
63 questions to ask on Rosh Hashanah
Here are 613 things to talk about at your Rosh Hashanah tables that have nothing to do with pregnancy or babies…
Ok fine, maybe just 63 topics🍎
Jewish family | Rosh Hashanah | table talk | infertility journey | ivf support
Rosh Hashanah & Yom Kippur
This is your reminder: G-d meets you wherever you are - in the pew, in the hallway, or at home with honey cake.
However you show up this year, you are enough.
Rosh Hashanah | fertility journey | Jewish women | ivf | pregnancy after loss | jewish community | infertility support
High Holiday Podcast Episodes
As we mentally and physically prepare for the holidays ahead, I’m taking a moment to share some Talking Away The Taboo podcast episodes relevant for this time of year.
From navigating the holidays through infertility and grief, to our relationship with G-d, listen to these podcasts and more through the 🔗 in bio or stories.
High Holidays | Rosh Hashana | Gd | Emuna | Bitachon | Shofar | Fertility journey
High Holiday Struggles
It’s okay if you don’t feel connected this time of year.
The point is to be in a relationship. If your full prayer experience this high holiday season is one painful sigh and the thought ‘G-d, I wish I could connect more,’ that counts as being in relationship, too.
#roshhashanah #jewishnewyear #jewishlife #jewishwomen #infertility #fertilityjourney #pregnancyafterloss #miscarriage
Tefillah from the sofa
Skipping synagogue but still talking to G-d from your couch? Yeah, us too. We’re gathering those prayers into something beautiful: Tefillah from the Sofa. Send yours by Sept 17.
Link in stories or in our bio to submit
Rosh Hashana | prayer | davening | fertility struggles | high holidays
Rosh Hashana Story
“I thought that after everything I have been through - my mother’s cancer, getting married at 36, losing my job last year, my husband finding out that he had no sperm, doing all the tests and procedures, waiting and waiting and waiting, that this year would finally be our time. We had so much hope.
And now, I have nothing. We keep getting bad news after bad news, and I don’t know how much more I can take.
I really thought I was going to be pregnant by this year, and now I just don’t know what to feel.
I’m angry, sad, and numb most of the time. I hardly go out. And I don’t even know if I can go to shul (synagogue) on Rosh Hashanah.
I’m writing to you because I see how many people are out there suffering in this community, but I just feel so alone all the time because everyone I know has so many kids already. I know that I should feel lucky because I have my husband (a few of my friends are still single), but instead of feeling grateful, I’m just feeling depressed.
Is there anyone who can give me any strength or hope that this will get better?”
—Anonymous
#primaryinfertility #infertilityjourney #ttc #jewishwomen #jewishholidays #roshhashana
4th of July
Fireworks. Flags. Family BBQs.
And also… grief. Triggers. Feeling completely untethered.
For many in our community, July 4th isn’t about freedom—it’s about feeling trapped. In a body that won’t cooperate. In a story you didn’t choose. In a world that doesn’t understand.
We see you. You don’t owe anyone a red-white-and-blue highlight reel. Light a sparkler or don’t—your heart gets to come first.
Mother’s Day Is Hard
Mother’s Day is hard. There’s a million questions, and barely any answers.
Who is a mother to you?
Mother’s Day Can Be Complicated
Mother’s Day can be complicated, and love is in the little things.
Send Love
Send love.💗
Send support. 🤗
Send hugs 🫂
…to some of the people who need it most this holiday
Still Triggered
To all of you out there who are carrying or holding your rainbows, we see you.
Purim Masks
L’chaim to YOU, to your strength, to your heart, and to the fact that you are already enough, exactly as you are.
Purim Survival Guide
Purim is supposed to be a time of joy, but when you’re struggling, it can feel anything but.
Purim Triggers
There are so many different emotions over the holidays. If you are feeling this, you are not alone 🫂
It’s not too late to extend another invite.
It’s not too late to extend another invite.
My Menorah of Grief
Thank you this follower for sharing this beautifully devastating poem.
From A Man’s Perspective
The Silence of Infertility- From A Man’s Perspective