Who Holds Space for the Birthkeeper
Who Holds Space for the Birthkeeper “Placing your hands on a beautiful, round belly and feeling movement inside While feeling a sudden stillness in your own womb”
Don’t Call Me Strong
“I’d rather never be called strong or resilient again By never having to prove I haven’t yet been broken Does it prove weakness when your strength is not tested.”
If You Only Understood
Sharing two pieces. The first talks about one woman’s personal account of her infertility and the second talks about the pain one feels when others get pregnant.
Letter To Unborn Baby
A letter written to my baby with no heartbeat. To my unborn baby: I don’t why Hashem (G-d) Chose to give you to me And then take you away I don’t know why we were given this test.”
Looking Back and Forward
This time of year brings up a lot of emotions for everyone. We remember where we were last year at this time, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
Keeping It Together
You can only keep it together for so long. You need a place to be able to let it all out - a space that feels warm and nurturing and cozy.
Forgiveness & Boundaries
There should always be an element of forgiveness, but with the adult recognition that you may need to protect yourself against further insult.
Miscarriage Loss
“The due date. I didn’t bother calculating it. Why get my hope up only to be heartbroken again. So now I’m terrified to get pregnant. But I’m more terrified not to.”
Friends and Missing Out
“Yet, we don't have kids to play with their kids at shabbos meals, go to afternoon activities with, or go to museums with. We have tried to fit in, but maybe it's better to not even try.”
Partner Against IVF
My husband and I couldn’t be on more different pages. Nothing has made me hate him more.I feel so alone in this because it literally seems like no one else has this issue.
The Impact
Because we need the fuzzy blankets, the homemade cookies, the hugs, the friends and the kindness. Those are the things that we carry with us, in our hearts, long beyond our losses.
Miscarriage Insight
“I’m realizing… of course the loss was extremely painful. But that pregnancy, as short as it was, was a real blessing in my life.”
All Grief is Valid
Nothing. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re grieving the loss of a your baby - one that you desperately wanted and were praying for.
Do I Need Therapy?
We’ve spent a lot of time discussing many different aspects of this, touching on topics like support groups, medication, setting boundaries, toxic positivity, self care, etc.
Pregnant After Loss Tips
“Can you share some tips about how to get through pregnancy after loss? I am 6 weeks pregnant now and a mess. It’s just so hard to get through the day.”
Endometriosis Message
“176 million women live with endometriosis and I am one of them. To me, this enigmatic and commonly misunderstood disease is a symbol of so much more than a simple illness.”
My Secret Menorah
“My secret menorah Magical oil Lit every night for months In secret The trigger shot. That lights them all... My secret menorah.”
My Chanukah Miracle
Two years ago, we found out about my third miscarriage on the second day of Chanukah. Lighting the candles after that felt, not for the first time in my life, like a cruel joke.
Grief With a Partner
Just because there are two people in a relationship and they go through exactly the same thing, it doesn’t mean that they will feel the same way about it, or grieve as long.
This is Grief
Grief is so many things. But it is not linear. It will not obey your internal timeline. It will not end because society says that it should. Grief has a mind of its own because grief is love.