The Problem Isn't Us
We, in the fertility community, are not the problem. We talk about our pain. We talk about our struggles. We educate and sensitize people to what we are going through.
Life With Grief
Huge thanks to this anonymous follower for giving us a glimpse into her world over the last few weeks. 💔 (some details have been changed to protect her anonymity)
Functioning at 30%
To those of you who are functioning at 30% right now, we see you. We know how hard it is to get through another day. But know this - You are seen. You are loved. And you are safe here.
How Do I Know When I’m Healed?
“We just learn to carry it better. There isn't a ‘remission’ for us per se or one specific day where I suddenly get to say I'm over it because I'll never be ‘over it.’”
At Some Point
Grief is the thing that underlies all of the work that we do. Grief about the lost expectations of what your life was "supposed to" look like. We are here for all of it.
Dear World
There is a so much pain in our community. People feel isolated and so distant from what is going on around then, because of everything they are carrying on the inside.
Vaginismus Journey
The main thing that I wanted to convey is that vaginismus isn't a simple treatment and voila you're cured. There's different options but it can be trial and error.
Vaginismus & Being Single
Here is a personal account of vaginismus. We are sharing her words because her experience is the very essence of circumstantial infertility.
Social Infertility
We spend every day talking about this pain. We do this because someone needs to hold space for those in our community who are grieving.
Halachic Infertility
PSA: This next story about Halachic infertility is hard to read. And why are we sharing her story? Because IWSTHAB's mission is to hold space, comfort and validate anyone who is struggling to have a child.
Being Single
We share these heartbreaking words with you so that you can understand a little bit more about how hard it is for them to be carrying the weight of not being married AND not having children.
Egg Freezing is Personal
Some people will freeze their eggs. Some people won't. It's a personal decision, much like a couple's decision to pursue fertility treatment (IUI, IVF).
Circumstantial Infertility: Having to Wait
“I didn't struggle with fertility physically, thank G-d, but there were emotional and situational elements, things coming up around parenthood, my childhood, and existential questions.”
Sexual Abuse & Infertility
We are not going to be able to do justice to the myriad of ways that someone who is s3xually abused is traumatized. But this too, can be another reason why someone has circumstantial infertility.
Kvatter Thoughts
This morning, I was asked to be kvatter for someone. I had no idea who the couple was. I was told "it's a segulah." To which I explained "Yes. We've struggled for over 4 years...I'm aware."
Circumstantial Infertility: “My Body Just Can’t Do It”
“Anything that prevents you from holding that baby you dream about at night is infertility and challenging. Yes, I can get pregnant, but doing this again is petrifying."
This is Pregnancy After Loss
With pregnancy after loss, there are so many emotions. Disbelief. Emptiness. Hope. Regret. Guilt. Doubt. Excitement. Fear. Joy. Relief. Here is one woman’s thoughts.
Day 8: Worthy of Rest
You ARE worthy of a nap, a break, and some time off. You deserve it. Pat yourself on the back for getting through whatever life has thrown at you. Because this stuff is hard. Really, really hard.
Day 5: Worthy of Hugs
The fertility community also knows that sometimes a hug is the answer when there isn’t anything good to say. But it can have so many other benefits... *Hugs can make you happier.*
Day 4: Worthy of Love
Even if your body and/or mind are betraying you, you shouldn’t loathe your own self, your own body. They say you can only control yourself - we argue that you can’t even fully control that.