Extra Stringencies with Niddah and Mikvah
You don’t get extra points for keeping the laws of nidda/mikvah more stringently than necessary. A sensitive rabbi or yoetzet well versed in this area and attuned to mental health can help.
Mikvah and Closure
After my first miscarriage, I just waned to go to the mikvah to put closure to the pregnancy. With my second loss, I didn’t want to go to mikvah because I didn’t want the closure.
Mikvah is Hard
From the moment I stepped into a Mikvah for when I had to go before my wedding, it was the most hardest, uncomfortable, and just plain painful for me to ever do.
Why I Hate the Mikvah
I dread the mikvah. I rarely experience anxiety, but the mikvah gives me anxiety. I once took my birth control pill for eight months straight to avoid getting my period, which is not safe.
Crying at the Mikvah
Last month I cried when I got out of the water. Couldn’t control it. I cried so hard like I had the day we got our results [when we were diagnosed with infertility]. I couldn’t stop.
My Last Trip to the Mikvah
“I just went to the mikvah for the last time. I am 28 years old. This time I walked into the mikvah knowing that there was a hundred percent, no miracle out there could ever help me carry another baby.”
Mikvah Jealousy
Infertility Confession: I’m jealous of other women who can come home from the mikvah and have fun with their husbands withoutthe stress of infertility.
My Period Feels Like a Slap in the Face
As if infertility wasn’t hard enough, then niddah comes along and makes it 100 times harder 😩 When all you want is a hug… and you can’t have it. It just crushes you all over again.
The Niddah Diaries
We’ve compiled some of your thoughts and feelings around niddah and mikvah. Swipe to read through them and read entries about The Niddah Diaries.
Mixed Emotions About Taharat HaMishpacha
PSA: It’s normal if you dread niddah. It’s normal if niddah brings you some comfort. You are normal. Give yourself grace and let go of the guilt.
Surrogacy After Loss
I always knew surrogacy would be my path to having a child of my own. When I was 16 years old, I was diagnosed with rhabdomyosarcoma, a form of cervical cancer.
Don’t Say This: Mikvah Attendant Edition
Mikvah is hard for many people in the fertility community and emotions often run high during a visit. Many innocent things that are said can be sources of pain. Keep it simple.
When Your Provider is Visibly Pregnant
How do you navigate through finding out your healthcare provider, the one who is supposed to help YOU have a baby, is pregnant themselves?
Therapy Is a Tool
Not everyone who goes through difficult times needs therapy. However, there is no reason to suffer through a hard time if you are really struggling.
5 Things To NOT Do When Speaking About Mental Health
Supporting someone struggling with mental health is more than asking “How are you doing?” Here are 5 things not to do when speaking about mental heatlh.
Don’t Put Your Emotional Health on the Back Burner
The only person who knows what you need is you. Put your emotional health first and tell people what you need. So that you get what you need.
“What am I supposed to do with those embryos?”
This is a part of IVF that is not often spoken about so openly. After IVF, after all the monitoring, after the pregnancy and growing your family, What do you do with the embryos that you made but didn’t use?
Leftover Embryos from IVF
When you have leftover embryos from IVF, what are you options? Let’s get down to the nitty gritty. What are your options when you have embryos that you aren’t going to use?
Termination for Medical Reasons Personal Story
A women’s TFMR story and how her experience was affected by the COVID-19 pandemic, with her having to do everything alone.
Pain is Pain
There is no such thing as the pain olympics. Everyone’s pain is valid regardless of: If they’ve been trying to have a baby for 1 year or 5, If they’ve lost 1 pregnancy or multiple.