I’m Not Pregnant - I’m Just Fat.
One of our followers says that this line usually shuts people up pretty fast.
How To Respond When Someone Asks “Are You Pregnant?”
However you choose to respond when someone asks if you are pregnant is perfectly okay.
Stop Looking at People’s Bodies
Stop trying to figure out people’s fertility situation when looking at someone’s body.
It’s Not Your Business
Reminder - don’t comment on people’s bodies
One of the WORST things.
One of the WORST things about recurrent pregnancy loss 💔💔💔
87 Questions To Ask on Thanksgiving
This is the time of the year where people may struggle to make conversation that doesn’t involve bringing up people’s struggles. Here’s our list that we share for every holiday to remind you that people are so much more than their fertility journeys. ➡️
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
Say This Instead
Don’t Say This, Say This Instead
National Adoption Awareness Month
November is National Adoption Awareness Month. As a fertility community, here are some things we need from the well-meaning people in our lives.
Stop Telling People to Pray Harder
Stop telling people to pray harder.
Not Everything Happens For A Reason
Not everything happens for a reason. Some things happen, and they are horrible and awful. You could spend your life searching for a reason — you’ll never find it.
Stop Saying Never Give Up
Sometimes you need to step back and take a break. A long break. Or change course. Or try something new. Or stop trying altogether. So I beg you, fertility community- let’s stop saying, “Never give up.”
Instead of “I Know How You Feel”
Look, there always such a black and white distinction between what is appropriate and not appropriate to say to someone who is going through infertility or loss.
“Everyone Has Kids Here”
Don't ask people how many kids they have. Why? Because of statistics. 1 out of 6 couples are dealing with some kind of infertility and 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in a loss.
Gossip
When you're struggling to have a child, gossip can be even more upsetting. Because if they're talking about everyone else's uterus, they're talking about yours too.
Don’t Say This!
Think before you speak. We could write a book about all the comments people have shared with us in the last week. And maybe one day, we will.
Tell Me About Your Family
You might feel an instinct when meeting someone new to ask, “So, how many kids to you have?” or “Do you have kids?” 🚨DON’T🚨Try instead: “Tell me about your family.”
What to Not Say to Someone Freezing Their Eggs
When someone makes a decision to freeze their eggs, it's a HUGE deal. So much went into the decision. And as an outsider, your job is to support, not to question.
Don’t Say This: Mikvah Attendant Edition
Mikvah is hard for many people in the fertility community and emotions often run high during a visit. Many innocent things that are said can be sources of pain. Keep it simple.
Six Things Not to Say to Someone With Endometriosis
Endometriosis is a complex and often misunderstood condition. Many well-meaning comments can unintentionally hurt those who are struggling. Here are six things NOT to say to someone with endometriosis.