To Friends and Family
Thank you to the follower who sent us this letter ❤️🩹 it so eloquently captures our emotions right now.
Infertility | pregnancy and infant loss | miscarriage | stillbirth | ivf | fertility journey | fertility support
“Tell me about your family”
You might feel an instinct when meeting someone new to ask, “So, how many kids to you have?” or “Do you have kids?”
🚨DON’T🚨
Please, stop asking people about their kids, if they want kids, or how many kids they have.
For people in the fertility community, these questions are an incredibly hurtful, heartbreaking and triggering for struggling to build their family or grieving the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Such an “innocent” question is the source for so much pain.
So please, next time you want to ask someone about their family, try -
“Tell me about your family.”
❤️5 Ways To Ask, But Not Ask “Do You Have Kids?”❤️
❤️When you are meeting someone for the first time… “Ah, you just moved in! Welcome to the neighborhood. So, who lives in that big house with you?”
Mikvah Attendent
The mikvah can be a deeply emotional experience—especially for those navigating infertility, loss, or pain. Even well-meaning comments can unintentionally cause hurt.
This post is a gentle reminder: when in doubt, keep it simple.
Be supportive. Be respectful. Most importantly, be quiet when silence is more healing than words.
Unhelpful comments
Spoiler alert: we don’t.
Fertility Journey
Someone else’s fertility journey isn’t the place for your dreams of grandkids, nieces, or nephews.
Read the room
Read the room. Some of us are still waiting for what you’re complaining about.
Pain changes people
We do not care that we’ve changed. Pain changes people—and we’re still here.
I’m Not Pregnant - I’m Just Fat.
One of our followers says that this line usually shuts people up pretty fast.
How To Respond When Someone Asks “Are You Pregnant?”
However you choose to respond when someone asks if you are pregnant is perfectly okay.
Stop Looking at People’s Bodies
Stop trying to figure out people’s fertility situation when looking at someone’s body.
It’s Not Your Business
Reminder - don’t comment on people’s bodies
One of the WORST things.
One of the WORST things about recurrent pregnancy loss 💔💔💔
87 Questions To Ask on Thanksgiving
This is the time of the year where people may struggle to make conversation that doesn’t involve bringing up people’s struggles. Here’s our list that we share for every holiday to remind you that people are so much more than their fertility journeys. ➡️
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
Say This Instead
Don’t Say This, Say This Instead
National Adoption Awareness Month
November is National Adoption Awareness Month. As a fertility community, here are some things we need from the well-meaning people in our lives.
Stop Telling People to Pray Harder
Stop telling people to pray harder.
Not Everything Happens For A Reason
Not everything happens for a reason. Some things happen, and they are horrible and awful. You could spend your life searching for a reason — you’ll never find it.
Stop Saying Never Give Up
Sometimes you need to step back and take a break. A long break. Or change course. Or try something new. Or stop trying altogether. So I beg you, fertility community- let’s stop saying, “Never give up.”
Instead of “I Know How You Feel”
Look, there always such a black and white distinction between what is appropriate and not appropriate to say to someone who is going through infertility or loss.