Mikvah Attendent
The mikvah can be a deeply emotional experience—especially for those navigating infertility, loss, or pain. Even well-meaning comments can unintentionally cause hurt.
This post is a gentle reminder: when in doubt, keep it simple.
Be supportive. Be respectful. Most importantly, be quiet when silence is more healing than words.
Unhelpful comments
Spoiler alert: we don’t.
Fertility Journey
Someone else’s fertility journey isn’t the place for your dreams of grandkids, nieces, or nephews.
Read the room
Read the room. Some of us are still waiting for what you’re complaining about.
Pain changes people
We do not care that we’ve changed. Pain changes people—and we’re still here.
I’m Not Pregnant - I’m Just Fat.
One of our followers says that this line usually shuts people up pretty fast.
How To Respond When Someone Asks “Are You Pregnant?”
However you choose to respond when someone asks if you are pregnant is perfectly okay.
Stop Looking at People’s Bodies
Stop trying to figure out people’s fertility situation when looking at someone’s body.
It’s Not Your Business
Reminder - don’t comment on people’s bodies
One of the WORST things.
One of the WORST things about recurrent pregnancy loss 💔💔💔
87 Questions To Ask on Thanksgiving
This is the time of the year where people may struggle to make conversation that doesn’t involve bringing up people’s struggles. Here’s our list that we share for every holiday to remind you that people are so much more than their fertility journeys. ➡️
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
How To Be A More Sensitive Host
Say This Instead
Don’t Say This, Say This Instead
National Adoption Awareness Month
November is National Adoption Awareness Month. As a fertility community, here are some things we need from the well-meaning people in our lives.
Stop Telling People to Pray Harder
Stop telling people to pray harder.
Not Everything Happens For A Reason
Not everything happens for a reason. Some things happen, and they are horrible and awful. You could spend your life searching for a reason — you’ll never find it.
Stop Saying Never Give Up
Sometimes you need to step back and take a break. A long break. Or change course. Or try something new. Or stop trying altogether. So I beg you, fertility community- let’s stop saying, “Never give up.”
Instead of “I Know How You Feel”
Look, there always such a black and white distinction between what is appropriate and not appropriate to say to someone who is going through infertility or loss.
“Everyone Has Kids Here”
Don't ask people how many kids they have. Why? Because of statistics. 1 out of 6 couples are dealing with some kind of infertility and 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in a loss.
Gossip
When you're struggling to have a child, gossip can be even more upsetting. Because if they're talking about everyone else's uterus, they're talking about yours too.