Personal Stillbirth Story
“But I won't stop growing. I now have three healthy living children. Each pregnancy came with its own problems and losses in between. Many nights in the labor and delivery triage room getting monitored”
Our Stillbirth Story
Rest easy my sweet baby girl. Know that you had so much love and family waiting for you here but I have no doubt that all our loved ones who have passed will watch over you and keep you safe.
Grateful & Hateful
Before I was in the situation I’m currently in, I used to say those things to other people too, and I only meant it in a well-meaning way.
Stillbirth Dreams
I had such dreams for you, my love. How you would be and act. How much you would look like us. What you would want to be when you grew up.
Purim Letter
I was sent this message on Purim, from Miriam Levin. Here is a heartbreaking letter to her stillborn daughter. “I wonder what costume you would choose...maybe a princess or a flower girl?”
I’m His Mother
Sending love to everyone today, whether your babies are here or there, in your arms or still in your minds. “Tonight I remember... It will stay with me forever...”
Who Holds Space for the Birthkeeper
Who Holds Space for the Birthkeeper “Placing your hands on a beautiful, round belly and feeling movement inside While feeling a sudden stillness in your own womb”
The Impact
Because we need the fuzzy blankets, the homemade cookies, the hugs, the friends and the kindness. Those are the things that we carry with us, in our hearts, long beyond our losses.
Working on Grief
First you need to manage the pain, then you have to learn with crutches, eventually you may need a little physical therapy after the cast comes off and finally you start walking again.
Talking About My Baby
Because we know that talking about our babies will heal us on some level, but it won't bring them back. "I can wipe away the tears from my eyes, but I cannot wipe the grief from my heart."
It is Normal To…
Everyone reacts to grief in their own way, and so many of you question whether "you're doing it right." The answer is that only you know what you need.
This is Pregnancy After Loss
With pregnancy after loss, there are so many emotions. Disbelief. Emptiness. Hope. Regret. Guilt. Doubt. Excitement. Fear. Joy. Relief. Here is one woman’s thoughts.
I’ve Been Thinking of You
Having a stillborn is one of the most unimaginable things someone can go through. But when you ignore their pain or don’t mention their baby, you make them feel like you don't care.
Loss of Naïveté
It can all change so quickly. What once felt exciting can be replaced with nerves and anxiety in an instant. The loss of naïveté following loss is profound. Our world is rocked and our outlook changes forever.
Family Picture on School Supply List
This is another reason why back-to-school time is hard for people in the infertility and loss community: a request for a family picture on a child's school supply list.
Chanukah: Light & Darkness
Thank you @theoutbackmama for these beautiful words about light, Chanukah, and loss. In memory of her son Matisyahu Maccabee born sleeping on the first Chanukah light 2021.
Living with a Scream Inside You
Imagine living with a scream inside you and the scream is yours and no one else can hear it. Pain is pain is pain. And we’ll hold space for ALL of you.
Growing Around Grief
Your grief will always be a part of you, not matter how many "stages" you go through. It was stay with you for the rest of your life. The difference that happens over time is you.
“Having Him Just Reminded Me of The Boy I Lost”
Here is a story from a follower about the complicated feelings of being grateful for another baby, while still deeply grieving the loss of a previous one.
Mikvah is Hard
From the moment I stepped into a Mikvah for when I had to go before my wedding, it was the most hardest, uncomfortable, and just plain painful for me to ever do.