Working on Grief

Still thinking so much about our conversation with @chayahott.

One of her points was that telling someone that they should just be happy or they should push away all the feelings of sadness is kind of like asking someone with a broken foot to walk.

It’s impossible.

First you need to manage the pain, then you have to learn with crutches, eventually you may need a little physical therapy after the cast comes off and finally you start walking again. But your foot always has this memory; It’s not exactly 100% right, but you move forward.

We’re paraphrasing Chaya but that’s effectively what she said. Grief is something that you never forget. But you need to do the work, so that you can eventually walk again. You can’t just break your foot and start walking on it.

Do the work.