I’ve Been Thinking of You

Takeaways:

Having a stillborn is one of the most unimaginable things someone can go through.

But when you ignore their pain, don't ask them how they are doing, or mention their baby, you make them feel like you don't care.

Reach out to the people in your life who are in pain. Please.

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“There’s another thing I’ve been wanting to share

Things people DON’T say and I yearned to hear

When I came home from the hospital with arms that were empty

You uttered just two words “welcome home” to me

“How’s the weather there?” asked a friend on the phone

That made me feel 100 times more alone

I tried with some people to talk about my son

But they never stopped to listen, talking on and on

You might think I’m private, that I keep it all inside

Well I talk tons to those who listen, but you never tried

If you’re really brave you’ll say “the baby” but never his name

But he was my child like my others, to me it’s the same

When I went out in public, I felt so ignored

I know you felt uncomfortable so you didn’t say a word

If you’re scared to remind me of my pain if you start talking about him with me,

I didn’t forget so don’t worry, it’s helpful you see

Because when people see me and can think of nothing to say

It doesn’t help me feel any better that way

I want to be noticed, my pain recognized

I delivered a baby and he changed our lives

So acting like nothing happened is painful, too

You can’t go wrong with saying “I’ve been thinking of you”

-Anonymous