Secondary Infertility and Age
This poster wishes to remain anonymous, but I’ve had many conversations with her about trying to reconcile the despair of trying (and failing) to get pregnant with another child.
Secondary Infertility and Age Gaps
. It’s been “easy” (😕) to deal with your situation, but to have your aloneness on display, while watching everyone else parade with their families has been a big adjustment.
Starting Treatments Again
But my heart breaks for my husband, who still dreams of a big family. And my toddler -who might never have a sibling. So I pray I will have the strength to get through this for my family. Without falling apart.
Not Fitting Into the Categories
How do you relate to Gd, when he doesn’t answer your prayers over and over again? Here is one person’s story: “What does hashem want from me?
My Secondary Infertility Story
Secondary infertility is real, painful and heartbreaking, with the guilt that you already have a child/children, and you may look as if you are not struggling at all.
Secondary Infertility Affects Our Children
It’s hard to be an only child when every family around you is much larger. It’s hard being disappointed year after year, asking and praying for a baby sister and brother, but never getting one.
Secondary Infertility Journey
We just can’t seem to get to the bottom of this and my daughter is getting bigger and bigger with each month that passes. I am very grateful for her, but I very badly want to have more children.
The Joy of Just One More Baby
Will I ever have the joys of a large family? Will I ever have the joy of just one more baby? Will I ever get the chance to say ‘children’ and not just ‘child?’⠀⠀⠀
Passover Reflection
So many comments will come in during the next week about family size. Hopefully this piece will be a reminder to all of you to never assume anything.
“Your Child is Spoiled”
The feeling when someone says that your child is spoiled because they are an only child… Because they don't know how long or how hard you've been trying...
Living with a Scream Inside You
Imagine living with a scream inside you and the scream is yours and no one else can hear it. Pain is pain is pain. And we’ll hold space for ALL of you.
Sterile by Rachel Cohen
This next voice from the community is one about longing, pain, guilt, and frustration. This piece is incredibly raw. And that is why we share it. To let you know you are not alone.
“I Miss Being Pregnant”
This woman writes of her yearning to be pregnant, especially as she sees her other children grow. As the months and years pass, it reminds her of what could have been.
Back To School Night
It’s funny - you don’t realize how an event may possibly throw you off until you experience it. Secondary infertility can take the excitement out of milestones for your current child.
Secondary Infertility and Pressure on Kids
For some, there is undue pressure being placed on children to pray for specific outcomes. When those outcomes don’t arrive, month after month, children can start to blame themselves.
Secondary Infertility Simchas Torah Edition
Simchas Torah is one of the hardest holidays to manage. For families experiencing secondary infertility there can be a pressure to push away your own pain and emotions for the sake of your children.
Duda’im
The pain of secondary infertility is different than primary. But it is one that creates similar feelings of isolation and loneliness. Please don’t gaslight people’s pain, even if they have children.
Swaddle Blanket
Here is another piece about secondary infertility - the space between appreciation for the family you already have and yearning for the family you desperately want.
“Why Is It Taking So Long?”
Sharing this voice from the community about the pain of secondary infertility and how it is heart wrenching to hear a child ask “when will I get a sibling?”
A Shattered Heart: Story About Secondary Infertility
This a heart wrenching story from another follower, this time about her journey with secondary infertility, hope, treatments, and all the emotions that come with it.