What Secondary Infertility Feels Like Simchas Torah Edition

We hear time and time again from you that Simchas Torah is one of the hardest holidays to manage. It is so kid-focused and supposed to be such a happy day, but for many of us it is the most challenging day and one we dread.

For families experiencing secondary infertility there can be a pressure to push away your own pain and emotions for the sake of your children.

You force yourself to “show up” for your kids by taking them to shul for hakafot/dancing because you know they love it even though that is the last place you want to be right now.

Secondary infertility is being caught between the pull between two incredibly strong forces: the children you do have who need you and the children you are still hoping and fighting to bring into this world.

And you are in the middle. Stuck trying to figure out your pain, grief, and anger on your own.

But you are not alone.

We see you and we hear you.