Mothers day is coming
Mother's Day is hard.
For anyone navigating infertility, loss, or a complicated relationship with this holiday, it can feel like the whole world is celebrating something that still feels out of reach.
If someone in your life is struggling to build their family, make a donation in their honor by Wednesday, May 6th, and we'll send them a beautiful card on Mother's Day morning, Sunday, May 10th, with a heartfelt message.
It's a small gesture that can mean everything.
There are three card designs to choose from, and a minimum donation of $36 is all it takes. If you'd like to send a card to more than one person, you can submit the form again from the confirmation page.
Order today at the link in bio
Mother's Day | Jewish Women | Jewish Community | Villages
Things I am carrying that no one knows
Conflicting Emotions in Surrogacy
Surrogacy brings up so many emotions, often conflicting ones at the same time
You can hold two (or more) things to be true and valid
We get it and are here for you
Surrogacy | Mental Health | Surrogate | Fertility Journey
No matter what is happening…We are here.
Whether you are waiting for a cousin or a doctor to call and tell you the news, life in this complicated world takes fortitude and a village
We are here for you
Surrogacy | Jewish Community | War | Fertility Journey | Anxiety
My Anxiety:
This is a question I could answer in my sleep
Anxiety | Mental Health | Infertility
7 types of rest we ALL need
Rest is not just sleep
Every person needs different kinds of rest to truly recharge
Which kind of rest speaks to you the most?
Mental Health | Rest | Relaxation
Send love, Send Support, Send Hugs
Send love
Send support
Send hugs
...to some of the people who need it most this holiday
Head to our stories and click the link to share yours anonymously
This is also a great way to send a message to all our community members in Israel, who are struggling with so much on top of the war
This community is a special corner of the internet, and we're so glad you're a part of it
Jewish Community | Purim | Support | Village
How to respond to invasive questions
Spending time with friends and family over Purim might mean you get asked some insensitive, personal questions about when you are going to have a baby…
Swipe to read some ways you can respond when Bubby asks you, “Nu… when are you going to give me a great-grandchild? You aren’t getting any younger!”
Purim | Jewish Holidays | Infertility | Pregnancy & Neonatal Loss
Holding onto grief & joy
Purim is "supposed" to be happy, but that assumption can make grief feel even lonelier
This is the story of making Purim meaningful amidst grief and loss in one's own way
Purim | Jewish Community | Pregnancy & Neonatal Loss
Purim Triggers
Purim has real triggers for so many people in Jewish communities struggling to build their families
Purim | Mishloach Manos | Jewish Community | Triggers
Purim Survival Guide
Here is how you can make it through mostly in one piece
(at least until you can fall apart with us and others who get it)
Purim | Jewish Holidays | Jewish Community | Mental Health | Coping Strategies
The Mask
Thank you to the person who shared this powerful piece on the mask they wear to get through the day and time with family when it's painful
If this resonates for you, please know that you are not alone, and you don't have to carry this alone if you don't want to anymore
Send a DM any time and click on the link in bio to find our resources and support groups
Jewish Community | Purim | Infertility | Grief | Mental Health
Masking
We all wear masks, sometimes even different ones in different places
And that's okay
But just remember that until you get to know someone deeply, you may be seeing the mask they put on to get through their day
Purim | Masking | Mental Health | Jewish Community
4 Harmful Myths about Black Women's Fertility Journeys
Myths and Facts about fertility journeys among Black women and families
Learn more at https://www.illumefertility.com/fertility-blog/dispelling-myths-surrounding-fertility-and-women-of-color
Black Maternal Health | Black History Month | Infertility | IVF
Do not comment on peoples bodies
PSA: Don’t comment on people’s bodies. Ever.
Maybe their fertility medications (or other meds) are causing them to gain weight.
Maybe they just had a loss and haven’t lost the weight.
Maybe they are pregnant but they aren’t ready to talk about it yet.
Maybe they have a medical condition that is causing their body to gain weight.
You never know what someone is going through, but you can be certain that commenting on their body is never the thing you want to be doing. Imagine not seeing someone since last Thanksgiving and the first thing they say to you is “Oh, you got heavy!” 😡
Please. Please. Please. Stop talking about body shape, type, diets, food restrictions, Glp-1s, etc. It’s never a conversation that is going to end well.
Thanksgiving | turkey | body image| don’t talk about people’s bodies| health at every size | diet culture | fertility | infertility | Jewish
Questions to ask on Thankgiving
Okay, you agreed to go. But you’re worried that people are going to be up inappropriate topics.
Or you agreed to host, and you need to make sure that your childless sister feels comfortable.
This is one of our most popular pieces of content for good reason- because people get into a rut with conversations, and forget that there are so many other things to talk about that have nothing to do with babies, pregnancy or children.
So here’s your cheat sheet, again. ❤️
Singles | childless | childless not by choice | infertility | miscarriage | ice breakers for fertility struggles | infertile | thanksgiving | shabbos | hosting a meal | being a good host | sensitive things to say
How to avoid invasive questions
Spending time with family over the holidays means you might be getting asked some insensitive and personal questions about when you are going to have a baby….
Swipe to read some ways you can respond when Bubby asks you “Nu… when are you going to give me a great-grandchild? You aren’t getting any younger!”
Thanksgiving | holidays | Jewish holidays | Jewish | Jewish family | Jew | infertility | IVF | iui | miscarriage | pregnancy loss | not pregnant
Holiday Reminder part 2
It’s perfectly okay if this year Thanksgiving is just another Thursday
Okay?
Okay ❤️🫂🤗
Grateful | not grateful | holiday | Jewish holiday | Jewish family | miscarriage | stillborn | infertility
Holiday Reminder
Holidays are hard. Full stop.
And they get a whole lot harder when the world around you is wrapped in gratitude and smiling family photos.
The reality is that most people are just trying to make it through the day without falling apart. We rarely know what someone else is carrying. Someone might look calm, cheerful, or “fine,” while inside they’re holding grief, fear, disappointment, or memories they never asked for.
So this holiday season, go gently. With yourself, and with everyone you meet. A little kindness goes a long way, especially when so much is happening beneath the surface that no one can see.
thanksgiving | holidays | jewishholiday | jewishfamily |infertility | pregnancyloss | miscarriage
Quick reminder…
Quick reminder to end off our “men’s week” for MOvember.
Just because he doesn’t emote the way you do, doesn’t mean he’s not feeling it just as much.
Tell him that you’re really a mess. Let him know that it’s hard to watch him act differently than you. Give him ways he can support you if he doesn’t know what to do.
And…don’t forget to reach out to other people if he can’t be the one who gives you what you need. It’s okay if that happens. You’re allowed to get support and validation from other people too.
Couples | relationships | male factor | male factor infertility | infertility | miscarriage | stillborn | TFMR | Jewish | Jew | jewish woman