Irrational things about infertility
Infertility is making huge efforts and they don’t necessarily pay off in the way we hoped – and the pain is real
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I’m not supposed to grieve…
Waiting and waiting and waiting
For what feels like forever.
It’s not fair, but you are not alone 🫂
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Infertility is…
Infertility is… all of this 🫂
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This is not your whole story
The “stuckness” can be all consuming sometimes, but this chapter is not your whole story, and we are here for all of it.
Fertility support, pregnancy, loss, and fertility, fertility clinic, Jewish couple, triggered, stillbirth, IVF
New year same problems
New year, same problems.
People make New Year’s resolutions, take on new mitzvos, try new exercise routines…hoping to change, before settling back into the same old habits within a few days.
For anyone trying to have a baby, another year means nothing. It’s just about trying to make it through another day, another week, another month, etc a pray that this year will be different.
They’re still carrying the same pain, trauma and heartache- Even though nothing has changed.
So, please…be kind to everyone who is still waiting, hoping and wishing.
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Reflecting on your year
Another year of
Hoping
Grieving
Dreaming
Waiting
And you’re going to get through whatever comes next. Promise ❤️
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Before you share the resource…Read this
So how long should you wait before you share that thing?
The one that you really think could help and you’re really sure no one else has told them about it already?
And you’re really sure they haven’t tried to ChatGPT for their problem already? That they don’t know how to google search?
Wait until later.
Maybe it’s not until the next time you speak. Or see each other. And then you gently say, “Hey, you know I was thinking about our conversation from last time, and I was wondering if you…”
Or maybe you don’t bring it up until they share something with you about it again.
-bottom line- the important thing is that you hold space for them when theirs breaking down. Period. Don’t try to fix them. Save your advice for sometime later.
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Silence can feel like a secondary loss
Reminder: if you ignore the uncomfortable, then you’re contributing to the pain.
The question is how to be supportive, but not pushy, judgey or insensitive.
Do you want people to acknowledge that you’re going through something? Even if it’s just a “I’m thinking of you?” Or do you prefer that people just pretend nothing is going on?
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A Letter to my Daughter
Watching your loved one walk through infertility is incredibly painful.
Feeling helpless. Hopeless. Safeness. Loneliness.
Not knowing how to show up and support them through the darkest.
Swipe to read through this powerful piece. A mother’s letter to her daughter. ❤️🩹
And send some love in the comments
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You are not alone
Not everyone felt miracles, joy, or light.
Some of us barely lit candles.
Some of us ate donuts alone.
Some of us felt invisible while everyone else posted miracles.
If you’re going through something hard and feeling hopeless, we see you.
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Testimonial about our light
One flame changed everything 🕎
Now we’re taking that energy and stretching it across the Jewish world.
We’re expanding programs, support groups, and training for leaders.
We’re ready to reach farther—if you’ll help fuel the glow.
🔗 in bio to give.
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Light and Darkness can Coexist
“Gosh it’s so eerie to find comfort from my own words from the past. Please do share ❤️”
This piece was written by Malki Rodal @theoutbackmama in 2023 - swipe to read the beautiful and touching words to her son.
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You’re going to get through this!
The miracle of Chanukah wasn’t only that the oil lasted.
It was that the light reached farther than anyone thought possible.
This year, we’re aiming for the same.
More families. More resources. More support groups. More guidance for those walking through infertility and pregnancy loss in our community.
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How to open your arms to others
Here are just a few simple ways to make people feel more included during Chanukah (or any time) 🫂
If our work has moved you, inspired you, or reminded you that no one should face this pain alone, please make a gift today.
Your support literally determines how far our light can go.
Help us reach farther this year.
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Spoon Theory
Have you heard of spoon theory? It’s the idea that pain, whether emotional or physical, and chronic illness impact a person’s ability to do different daily activities and that each activity costs a certain amount of “spoons”.
Healthy people have unlimited spoons each day and don’t need to think twice about how to use their spoons. But people experiencing pain, chronic illness, or infertility have to be aware of how many spoons they have each day and plan accordingly.
This might look like saying no to Chanukah parties in order to save spoons for making and eating dinner that night.
Spoon theory empowers people to set boundaries to safeguard their mental and physical wellbeing. It’s a reminder to save some spoons to take care of yourself.
We have a limited amount of spoons each day - don’t use any on people or situations that bring you down and wear you out.
Do you think spoon theory is a helpful tool for you? What are some “spoons” you chose to do this time of year?
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Workplaces that Support Infertility Journeys
We wanted to share the positive side of navigating a fertility journey while also working and how workplaces hold space for their employees going through hard times.
There are some workplaces that are incredibly supportive and sensitive - swipe to read some examples.
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Infertility in the workplace
This week we are talking about fertility in the work place.
Sometimes, the workplace is a distraction of the pain in your personal life… and sometimes there’s no escaping it❤️🩹
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Normal question turned complicated
What may have seemed like a normal question before infertility or loss now is so much more complicated to answer…
Aren’t you excited to be pregnant again and have a baby??
Yes… but also no…
Is this pregnancy going to end with a living baby?
Will I get to finally use that room I dedicated to be a nursery the first time I was pregnant?
Am I ever going to ✨feel✨like this is really going to happen for me?
Pregnancy after loss | PAL | infertility | infant loss | miscarriage | grief | life after infertility | grieving mom | Jewish mother | Jewish women
I’m scared
The years that I kept losing baby after baby are a blur.
I don’t remember much about family get-togethers or political events, and large swaths of time are just gone from my memory.
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What I do remember is the fear.
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I spent years in a perpetual state of panic, feeling traumatized by our experience with secondary infertility, not knowing if I was ever going to be able to get pregnant again. And then once I did finally see those pink lines, I had a momentary period of elation, which was followed almost immediately by a permanent state of sheer terror. I was certain that I would lose this baby too.
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Pregnancy after loss, or after infertility, is a kind of sick holding pattern, that doesn’t let up until you have a baby in your arms. It’s crippling, and makes you lose sense of all that is good and positive. You pray and hope that things will be different this time, while steeling yourself against what seems like the inevitable.
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Your world narrows and you only think about one thing: Today, my baby is still alive. And you don’t relax until you hear that first cry.
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How are you handling your pregnancy after infertility or after loss? What are some of the emotions you are going through?
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You can do this
You can do this. You can do this. You can do this.
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