We think that self-care is about manicures and massages and walks in nature.

And it is.

But it is also sometimes about doing hard things. Having hard conversations. Dealing with people who you don't agree with. Attending an event when you would rather stay home.

Our advice - especially when things are rough?

Think about the those things and see what needs work. It can be transformative to focus on inner work when the world is spinning out of control. Because you can't make other people do what you want, when you want it.

But you can change yourself and the way you react the events around you.

Quick self-care reminders

If you can find just one thing to smile about, one joke, one crazy situation, one obscenely obnoxious thing someone said to you, and actually laugh about it, your load will definitely feel a little lighter.

Because even though it’s impossible to run away from your problems, it’s nice to forget about them for a while. Exploring a new location or a favorite one gets you out of your head and into an alternate reality.

If you can find just one thing to smile about, one joke, one crazy situation, one obscenely obnoxious thing someone said to you, and actually laugh about it, your load will definitely feel a little lighter.

It’s the little things. They may be little, but don’t dismiss them as happenstance. They’re special gifts for you in the middle of the darkness, to remind you that you are not alone. ❤️

We all have our go-to comfort foods that bring us some semblance of joy during times of grief, pain and sadness. And they’re usually carb loaded because those are the foods that increase endorphins.

When things get rough, it’s always helpful to have some mantras to play over and over again in your head. Lessen the negative self-talk, it will be easier for you to be able to move through all of the pain.

Sometimes, the fact that a conflict is unresolved is the thing that’s keeping you up at night. And a true act of self care would be to discuss this with your person, and try to let some of it go.

Choose the things, people and content that bring you joy, and stay away from the things that make you feel yucky. There is enough in your life that is not going according to plan.

Give yourself credit for the little victories. They matter more than you think ❤️‍🩹