A Eulogy for a Person Who Never Got to Be
Deeply grateful to Dr. Rachel Rosenthal for allowing us to share her piece, which talks about her latest miscarriage with the themes of communal and personal expectations running throughout.
Pressure Categories
Pressure/Expectations that people feel usually feels like this big weight that people carry with them on a daily basis. But we think that it can be broken down into 3 main categories.
Don’t Gaslight Yourself
Quick reminder that this stuff is hard. Adding outside expectations onto the pressure you already put on yourself to have a certain number of kids, at certain intervals, is EXHAUSTING.
Why Won’t You Come
We are so grateful for this community and appreciate when you share your writings with us. This poem depicts the pain experienced along an infertility journey.
Please Keep Showing Up
“Some people said the worst, but also got it right. So don’t worry about offending. Just take the leap, the jump. And please keep showing up.”
I’ve Been Thinking of You
Having a stillborn is one of the most unimaginable things someone can go through. But when you ignore their pain or don’t mention their baby, you make them feel like you don't care.
Thick Skin
“Thick skin When she says "I'm pregnant," and you fake a smile All while she babbles about Morning sickness and Setting up a nursery and She never thinks of you.”
Something Feels Wrong
Sometimes we don’t have the words to explain how we are feeling. Or there are too many emotions to pinpoint one at any given moment. We just ask that you keep showing up for yourselves.
Loss of Naïveté
It can all change so quickly. What once felt exciting can be replaced with nerves and anxiety in an instant. The loss of naïveté following loss is profound. Our world is rocked and our outlook changes forever.
Grief is Part of Me
Pregnancy loss leaves a permanent mark on your heart that remains for a lifetime. And it’s especially hard when you’re missing your baby and everyone else thinks you should “be over it already.”
What We Lose
She might have already given the baby a name. He could have been considering naming the baby for his father. It doesn't matter. It was their baby.
Empowered Passover
9 things you can say to family or friends to make you feel empowered during Passover (and always!). “I won’t be able to make it. Something came up.”
Crazy Things Heard Over Passover
Crazy things followers have heard from friends and family over Passover. We wish we were making these up. These. Are. Awful. Period. Sending you all love
Yearning on Pesach
No one is saying that you can't complain. No one is saying that parenting isn't hard. Being on the receiving end of these kinds of messages/posts for the last 10 days can be hard for anyone struggling to have a baby.
Questions You Ask Yourself
Have you found yourself asking any of these questions? As we gear up for our Fertility Support Summit, these are some things we’re thinking about.
Infertility and Running
Infertility takes so much from our identity. Thank you @rachelteachestorah for sharing your words on infertility, resilience, and yes, running.
Pregnancy Thoughts
Thoughts and feelings towards pregnancy look very different after infertility and loss. Even though this is something that we desperately want, it brings a mix of emotions and lots of anxiety.
Mental Health Care
When it comes to taking care of our mental health, self care, setting boundaries, and advocating for ourselves are just as important as speaking with a therapist.
They Are Struggling Even If...
Just because someone appears to have it all together on the outside, doesn't mean they're not struggling on the inside. This goes for mental health and infertility.
Infertility Has Rewritten My Life’s Story
Longing for a child is deep and painful. And it changes you forever. Read one woman’s story below. “I don’t read novels much anymore. When I was younger I used to love it.”