Quick reminder to end off our “men’s week” for MOvember.

Just because he doesn’t emote the way you do, doesn’t mean he’s not feeling it just as much.

Tell him that you’re really a mess. Let him know that it’s hard to watch him act differently than you. Give him ways he can support you if he doesn’t know what to do.

And…don’t forget to reach out to other people if he can’t be the one who gives you what you need. It’s okay if that happens. You’re allowed to get support and validation from other people too.

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Infertility puts an incredible stress on a marriage. But you are in this together - here are some tips for supporting the men ❤️

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Society has made men believe it is a sign of weakness for them to show emotions. But those emotions are still there. So they bubble under the surface until eventually they have explode.

So men, we just wanted to acknowledge that despite what society might tell you it’s okay to feel all the feels.

It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to ask for help.
It’s okay to be vulnerable.
It’s okay to let others in.

It doesn’t make you weak or a burden. It makes you stronger.

And you may just find that in doing so, you feel lighter.

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Regardless of whether it’s your “fault” or not, the emotional pain of infertility is very real for both partners.

This anonymous woman has been messaging me for years, as she struggles with being married to a man with male factor infertility. The pain, the isolation, the shame, the secrecy- it’s all awful.

Here are some of her words…

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Just because he doesn’t show his emotions in the same way as you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel them. And don’t take it personally if he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Even if it’s not always obvious or in the same ways as women, men feel the pain of infertility and longing to have a baby.

Just support them. Be there for them. And remember that there is no right way to grieve and feel!

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Some men cry, some men get angry, some men talk about their pain…

And some men don’t.

And that is perfectly okay. Let him know you are there for him but then let him process in his own way. Even if that means that he doesn’t seem to process it at all.

Just because he doesn’t show his emotions in the same way as you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel them. And don’t take it personally if he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Even if it’s not always obvious or in the same ways as women, men feel the pain of infertility and longing to have a baby.

Just support them. Be there for them. And remember that there is no right way to grieve and feel!

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We asked you how the men in your life is coping with infertility and here’s what you said 🫂

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Often, the men in our lives suffer silently and alone.

Men grieve and process emotions differently.

Whether you are the spouse, parent, sibling, or friend to a man going through infertility or loss, please know that even if he seems ok on the outside, he is struggling too ❤️‍🩹

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Men are half the equation when it comes to making a baby…and they carry half the heartbreak too. Just because they don’t talk about it as much, doesn’t mean that they’re not aching.

We asked the I Was Supposed To Have A Baby Community how the men in their life are dealing with fertility stuff. Here are some of the responses.

Ejaculatory dysfunction isn’t talked about enough, so we’re honored to share this story with the IWSTHAB community.

Fertility challenges don’t necessarily have a gender—and that men, too, carry the weight of hope, loss, and love in this journey.

“I know that it’s our problem and not his, but this is really hard.” - anonymous

The Silence of Infertility- From A Man’s Perspective

“After our diagnosis of severe MFI (male factor infertility), I told my husband the ball was in his court, and if he wanted kids he needed to take control and figure things out.”

Regardless of whether it’s your “fault” or not, the emotional pain of infertility is very real for both partners.

Regardless of whether they ask for help or show their sadness, the men in your life need and deserve some TLC, too.Here are some ways you can support them today and every day.

To all of the men in the IWSTHAB community, we see you.

We NEVER want them to feel responsible or guilty. Because they aren’t. We protect them with our lives and love.

40-50% of infertility issues are because of a problem with the male. And of those, only a small percentage are open about it.

The one thing I keep hearing from all of you is how the diagnosis of #malefactorinfertility causes many men to question their masculinity.

Male factor infertility is quite common (some report it as high as 40-50%) of all infertility cases, yet it’s not discussed much in the support space.

How is that a merciful Gd? What did I ever do? All I have ever wanted in life is to be a father!’

First Person Account of Male infertility. When I started the topic of male factor infertility, a young Israeli couple offered to be interviewed about his/their experiences.

To all of the men in the IWSTHAB community, we see you.

And you are allowed to grieve too.

We've been sharing comments about how men feel when dealing with fertility struggles, and some definitely do not have the thicker skin that society expects of them. Here are a couple things you can say to get him out of a sticky situation.

Within a few months of marriage, we quickly realized something was not right. Based on what we learned in chosson (groom)/kallah (bride) classes we took before marriage, things weren’t happening the way they were biologically supposed to.

To all the men and all the women: it isn’t your fault and it isn’t mine.

We are in this together.