Stop Saying Never Give Up

I kinda have a feeling that I’m going to get some flack for this, but it needs to be said.

There’s a lot of content floating around the infertility and pregnancy loss space, and much of it centers on toxic positivity.

“Never give up.”
“There’s always a rainbow after the storm.”
“Keep going.”
“Good things come to those who wait.”

They make me want to scream.

No one knows if you’re going to have a healthy baby at the end of all this. In fact, if you *did* know when that baby was going to come, it would take away SO much of the angst.

But, regardless of that, this notion of going to the ends of the earth and leaving no stone unturned to the detriment of your physical or mental health, or WHATEVER else is going on in your life, is just wrong.

Sometimes you need to step back and take a break. A long break. Or change course. Or try something new. Or stop trying altogether.

So I beg you, fertility community- let’s stop saying, “Never give up.”