Rituals
There can be comfort in the consistency of ritual.
There’s comfort in the rhythm, in the embrace of the water.
Nothing is happening at the pace I would choose, but there is an opportunity for a resurgence of hope and the possibility of new beginnings.
But there’s also pain—
the grief of dipping again when you wished this month would be different. Mikvah and taharat hamishpacha aren’t simple.
They carry both hope and heartache.
4th of July
Fireworks. Flags. Family BBQs.
And also… grief. Triggers. Feeling completely untethered.
For many in our community, July 4th isn’t about freedom—it’s about feeling trapped. In a body that won’t cooperate. In a story you didn’t choose. In a world that doesn’t understand.
We see you. You don’t owe anyone a red-white-and-blue highlight reel. Light a sparkler or don’t—your heart gets to come first.
Unhelpful comments
Spoiler alert: we don’t.
Fertility Journey
Someone else’s fertility journey isn’t the place for your dreams of grandkids, nieces, or nephews.
Read the room
Read the room. Some of us are still waiting for what you’re complaining about.
Pain changes people
We do not care that we’ve changed. Pain changes people—and we’re still here.
Your fertility journey
And now… Israel.
There’s no guidebook for grieving your own pain while your people are grieving on a whole other level.
If your heart feels split between your personal loss and collective mourning all of us are doing, you’re human.
You get to hold both.
Another Month, Another Heartbreak
Another month, another heartbreak. Sharing these words for everyone quietly carrying this weight.
If you’re in this fight too, you’re not alone. Holding space for all the shattered hopes, endless prayers, and unwavering strength.
My Story of Circumstantial Infertility
Thank you so much to @sam_ster_ela for sharing her circumstantial infertility story with us. We’re holding you and everyone dealing with this pain 🫂🫂🫂
Grief and the Unknown
Waiting.
Waiting.
More waiting.
For what feels like forever.
Surviving the Two Week Wait
Remember to take care of yourself during the wait… even if all you really want to do is hide in bed and take a test every hour.
Explaining TFMR
Before you judge, pause.
These parents are already carrying more than most ever will.
Mother’s Day Is Hard
Mother’s Day is hard. There’s a million questions, and barely any answers.
Who is a mother to you?
Mother’s Day Can Be Complicated
Mother’s Day can be complicated, and love is in the little things.
I Always Wanted to Be a Mother
She always knew she wanted to be a mom.
Even without a partner.
Even after loss.
It hasn’t been easy — but she’s still here, still hoping, still trying.
Mental Health Care
All of it counts. All of it matters.
Take Care of Yourself
There is so so much going on right now. It’s overwhelming beyond belief. Even in the midst of this chaos, try your best to take a moment and do something to take care of yourself.
Nice Texts
Here are some examples of texts you can send to someone who is going through a rough time. Most importantly, just keep being there for them and let them know you are thinking of them.
Quotes About Faith
We asked our IWSTHAB community how their relationships have shifted since beginning their fertility journeys—and the responses were raw, real, and deeply human.
When The Pain Feels Loud
Even on the days that seem like you’re standing still, don’t forget all the things you’re doing to move forward and through your pain.