Mental Health Care
All of it counts. All of it matters.
Take Care of Yourself
There is so so much going on right now. It’s overwhelming beyond belief. Even in the midst of this chaos, try your best to take a moment and do something to take care of yourself.
Nice Texts
Here are some examples of texts you can send to someone who is going through a rough time. Most importantly, just keep being there for them and let them know you are thinking of them.
Quotes About Faith
We asked our IWSTHAB community how their relationships have shifted since beginning their fertility journeys—and the responses were raw, real, and deeply human.
When The Pain Feels Loud
Even on the days that seem like you’re standing still, don’t forget all the things you’re doing to move forward and through your pain.
Men are Half the Equation
Men are half the equation when it comes to making a baby…and they carry half the heartbreak too. Just because they don’t talk about it as much, doesn’t mean that they’re not aching.
How Men Deal with Fertility Stuff
We asked the I Was Supposed To Have A Baby Community how the men in their life are dealing with fertility stuff. Here are some of the responses.
Overcoming Silence
Ejaculatory dysfunction isn’t talked about enough, so we’re honored to share this story with the IWSTHAB community.
Male Factor Infertility
Fertility challenges don’t necessarily have a gender—and that men, too, carry the weight of hope, loss, and love in this journey.
This is Really Hard
“I know that it’s our problem and not his, but this is really hard.” - anonymous
Challenging Norms
Challenging norms, holding onto their values, and showing that there’s more than one way to be a family in the Orthodox world.
LGBTQ+ Family Building
The family building process can already be isolating.
In communities where there’s also a lack of understanding and support for LGBTQ+ family building, there are additional isolating factors.
You are not alone
Many queer people carry guilt around starting a family — for various reasons.
Guilt is real. But so is the longing for family.
Feeling Unseen
Hold space for every story. Every loss. Every family.
Our baby existed
And just like that, the future we had started building fell out from under us.
Big Feelings
You’re allowed to have big feelings, even if you don’t get an award for them.
Welcome Chaya
We’re so excited to welcome Chaya to the IWSTHAB family. She will be taking over the Second/Third Trimester Loss Group from Lielle, and be the leader of a NEW group - Recurrent Loss - starting in May.
Parshas Vayakhel
Infertility is hard. Pregnancy loss is hard. The journey to build a family is hard. Make sure to take breaks. You deserve them.
Surrogacy Podcasts
We’ve unpacked it all when it comes to surrogacy—one episode at a time.
Why Didn’t You Just Adopt
Because let’s be real—family-building isn’t a ‘just’ situation. Every journey is unique, and kindness goes a long way.