How to open your arms to others
Here are just a few simple ways to make people feel more included during Chanukah (or any time) 🫂
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Do not comment on peoples bodies
PSA: Don’t comment on people’s bodies. Ever.
Maybe their fertility medications (or other meds) are causing them to gain weight.
Maybe they just had a loss and haven’t lost the weight.
Maybe they are pregnant but they aren’t ready to talk about it yet.
Maybe they have a medical condition that is causing their body to gain weight.
You never know what someone is going through, but you can be certain that commenting on their body is never the thing you want to be doing. Imagine not seeing someone since last Thanksgiving and the first thing they say to you is “Oh, you got heavy!” 😡
Please. Please. Please. Stop talking about body shape, type, diets, food restrictions, Glp-1s, etc. It’s never a conversation that is going to end well.
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Questions to ask on Thankgiving
Okay, you agreed to go. But you’re worried that people are going to be up inappropriate topics.
Or you agreed to host, and you need to make sure that your childless sister feels comfortable.
This is one of our most popular pieces of content for good reason- because people get into a rut with conversations, and forget that there are so many other things to talk about that have nothing to do with babies, pregnancy or children.
So here’s your cheat sheet, again. ❤️
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How to avoid invasive questions
Spending time with family over the holidays means you might be getting asked some insensitive and personal questions about when you are going to have a baby….
Swipe to read some ways you can respond when Bubby asks you “Nu… when are you going to give me a great-grandchild? You aren’t getting any younger!”
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Holiday Reminder part 2
It’s perfectly okay if this year Thanksgiving is just another Thursday
Okay?
Okay ❤️🫂🤗
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Holiday Reminder
Holidays are hard. Full stop.
And they get a whole lot harder when the world around you is wrapped in gratitude and smiling family photos.
The reality is that most people are just trying to make it through the day without falling apart. We rarely know what someone else is carrying. Someone might look calm, cheerful, or “fine,” while inside they’re holding grief, fear, disappointment, or memories they never asked for.
So this holiday season, go gently. With yourself, and with everyone you meet. A little kindness goes a long way, especially when so much is happening beneath the surface that no one can see.
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Feel it, Honor it, and Seek support
Sending all of you love-
Good shabbos ❤️
Xoxo,
Aimee
Feeling exhausterwhelmulated
Anyone else?
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We know how to carry joy and pain
We know how to carry joy and pain because we’re Jews.
So as we are all glued to our screens, waiting, wishing, hoping and praying, please don’t forget about the people who are suffering through their own private horribleness.
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Simchas Torah
veryone is celebrating, dancing, singing…but for me, it’s still a reminder of what I’m missing.
If you want the power of the IWSTHAB community praying for you, use the link in stories to submit your name(s).
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4th of July
Fireworks. Flags. Family BBQs.
And also… grief. Triggers. Feeling completely untethered.
For many in our community, July 4th isn’t about freedom—it’s about feeling trapped. In a body that won’t cooperate. In a story you didn’t choose. In a world that doesn’t understand.
We see you. You don’t owe anyone a red-white-and-blue highlight reel. Light a sparkler or don’t—your heart gets to come first.
Mother’s Day Is Hard
Mother’s Day is hard. There’s a million questions, and barely any answers.
Who is a mother to you?
Mother’s Day Can Be Complicated
Mother’s Day can be complicated, and love is in the little things.
Send Love
Send love.💗
Send support. 🤗
Send hugs 🫂
…to some of the people who need it most this holiday
Still Triggered
To all of you out there who are carrying or holding your rainbows, we see you.
Purim Masks
L’chaim to YOU, to your strength, to your heart, and to the fact that you are already enough, exactly as you are.
Purim Survival Guide
Purim is supposed to be a time of joy, but when you’re struggling, it can feel anything but.
Purim Triggers
There are so many different emotions over the holidays. If you are feeling this, you are not alone 🫂
It’s not too late to extend another invite.
It’s not too late to extend another invite.
My Menorah of Grief
Thank you this follower for sharing this beautifully devastating poem.