My Secret Menorah Poem
“I am a single woman with a very close friend that has gone through and is currently going through infertility and loss. I am with her on this journey and she sent me the poem.”
My Secret Menorah
“My secret menorah Magical oil Lit every night for months In secret The trigger shot. That lights them all... My secret menorah.”
My Chanukah Miracle
Two years ago, we found out about my third miscarriage on the second day of Chanukah. Lighting the candles after that felt, not for the first time in my life, like a cruel joke.
Day 8: Worthy of Rest
You ARE worthy of a nap, a break, and some time off. You deserve it. Pat yourself on the back for getting through whatever life has thrown at you. Because this stuff is hard. Really, really hard.
Day 5: Worthy of Hugs
The fertility community also knows that sometimes a hug is the answer when there isn’t anything good to say. But it can have so many other benefits... *Hugs can make you happier.*
Day 4: Worthy of Love
Even if your body and/or mind are betraying you, you shouldn’t loathe your own self, your own body. They say you can only control yourself - we argue that you can’t even fully control that.
Day 3: Worthy of Praise
Your advice, while seemingly harmless, only serves as a way to tell me I did something wrong. It tells me that you believe I could have caused this situation with something I did (or didn’t do).
Day 2: Worthy of Trust
Trust goes both ways in the fertility community. When you're struggling, you want to know that the person you chose to listen to your problems can hold and support you without judgment.
Day 1: Worthy of Inclusion
DAY 1 I am worthy of not being excluded. Includes suggestions for how to make your Chanukah space inclusive this year. Small gestures go a long way into making people feel more included.
8 Days of Worthiness
We offer you IWSTHAB’s 8 Days Of Worthiness. No matter where you are on this journey, you are worthy of it all. You are worthy of expecting others to treat you with kindness.
Chanukah: Light & Darkness
Thank you @theoutbackmama for these beautiful words about light, Chanukah, and loss. In memory of her son Matisyahu Maccabee born sleeping on the first Chanukah light 2021.
You Will Get Through This
No one thought there could possibly be a pure jug of oil left after the Greeks defiled the Temple. But there was. Here’s to surviving really hard things. Happy Chanukah.
Chanukah Emotions
Swipe to read this beautiful voice from the community about the profound impact of this community and how the sukkot holiday has impacted this follower.
Share Light on Chanukah
We know that this time of year, and Chanukah, is especially hard for the infertility and loss community. We strive to spread sensitivity, inclusivity, and kindness in this community and in the world.
Chanukah is Hard
We hear you. Chanukah is hard. You are not alone if you feel this way. We compiled your responses to how you are feeling about Chanukah approaching.
Chanukah: Light And Dark
As we enter into the holiday of Chanukah, the holiday of light, let's acknowledge that there is still darkness. Light and dark can coexist. They both have their place in our lives.