Every Milestone
This is a peek into what holidays and milestones feel like when you are experiencing infertility. Another year without a baby.
Words of Chizuk for New Year
Thank you Rav Johnny Solomon (@rabbijohnnysolomon) for sharing these beautiful words that perfectly capture the essence of our work and why I am so grateful for every contribution we received.
September Reminder
Reminder: Please don’t make your friends who are single/don’t have kids/don’t have as many kids as you feel less-than with comments about how stressful and crazy your life is because of your children.
High Holiday Haze
“As the Yom Tov (holiday) season begins to set in and everyone begins the countdown to Rosh Hashana, I want to crawl under my covers and hibernate for a few months.”
5 Ways You Can Set Boundaries
Swipe to read five practical tips regarding setting boundaries on Rosh Hashana and every other day. What else would you add to this list? How do you set boundaries for yourself?
Struggling with Relationship with G-d
One of the pieces that makes this time of year so difficult is the heaviness. Reminder: You are allowed to struggle with your relationship with G-d. even during the High Holidays.
Rosh Hashana With Empty Arms
Last year I sat in shul hopeful but here we are, another year with empty arms. How am supposed to face G-d when he didn’t anser my prayers?
F*** Hashem & F*** Segulos
“ I am so so done. So finished when people always say Hashem this and Hashem that. He can go ******** because I am done. It’s so not fair. I hate G-d.”
Shofar Of Infertility
“The shofar’s sounds accomplish many things: it awakens us, expresses our cries, inspires us, and tells the story of our matriarchs and heroines that we read on Rosh Hashana.”
Rosh Hashana is a Funny Holiday
Rosh Hashana is a funny holiday because after we spend 3 hours in shul crying and begging for a baby, we head over to a friend’s house for lunch and talk about which apple is the best.
Mental Health and the Holidays
Thank you Rav Yoni Rosensweig for these incredible words of chizuk/strength about mental health and the high holidays with a few reminders.
"Those Who Sow in Tears Will Reap in Joy"
This moving piece from Rachel Rosenthal so eloquently weaves together the pain and joy of the holidays and life through the lens of infertility and loss.
Anger Towards G-d
Especially during the time of the Yamim Tovim when our year is laid out for us by G-d, you may feel anger towards G-d for choosing infertility and loss for you and for causing you pain year after year.
Don’t Ask Anyone If They Are Fasting… Ever.
Tonight begins Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year. And sometimes more than the themes of atonement and forgiveness, people tend to focus on the food...or lack thereof.
Forgiveness
Sometimes we forget how powerful forgiveness can be when we are in a dark place. Even in the face of the unforgivable - it’s important to remember that forgiveness is not just for THEM, it’s also for YOU.
“Last Year I Stood In Shul”
A letter to G-d from a member of the community before Yom Kippur. “Dear G-d…. I call out to you from the bottom of my heart, please bless me with a better year. Fondly, your daughter.”
This Year
To those of you who have found enough peace to make it through the holidays, we support you. To those of you feeling deep deep pain and struggling to make sense of it all, we support you too.
You Will Get Through This
Yom Kippur just ended, Sukkot is coming in 3 days, next week starts Infant & Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month?!? You are going to get through this.
Holding Different Emotions
Just because you are sad about one part in your life doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy other parts, especially during holidays. It’s OK to hold different emotions at once.
It’s OK to Say No
Here’s a message for Chol Hamoed but also all the time: Go easy on yourself. Just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you HAVE to. It’s ok to say no.