The Void
One of our followers sent this in, and we’re feeling this hard today. Sigh. The void. It’s inescapable, but all you want to do is crawl your way out.
Permission to Grieve
And what I realized this week, is: It is my right to grieve this. I don’t have to learn to be okay with this. I can grieve the loss, not just of my pregnancies, but the loss of what I dreamt my family to be.
Just One Word: Sad
What happens when you’re longing and longing, and the rainbow still isn’t here? And each day feels like the very possibility is slipping through your fingers?
Grief and the Unknown
Grief and the unknown: Two words that accurately describe my feelings as i stand in the midst of my journey at a standstill. Waiting for THE PHONE CALL.”
Presence of Absence
Choose the things, people and content that bring you joy, and stay away from the things that make you feel yucky. There is enough in your life that is not going according to plan.
I Can’t Even Imagine
We know that you mean no harm when you say this kind of thing, but it can feel really invalidating and lonely when you do. Would the world be a safer place if no one could imagine these things? No.
SIDS Complexity
Just like any new information that hits the airwaves, please be cautious when talking about it with people who are struggling. Your comments might cause more harm than good.
Talking About My Baby
Because we know that talking about our babies will heal us on some level, but it won't bring them back. "I can wipe away the tears from my eyes, but I cannot wipe the grief from my heart."
It is Normal To…
Everyone reacts to grief in their own way, and so many of you question whether "you're doing it right." The answer is that only you know what you need.
Grief Awareness is Every Day
But here at IWSTHAB, we talk about infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, grief and loss every single day of the year. Those of you living this world don’t need a day on the calendar to commemorate your pain.
The Problem Isn't Us
We, in the fertility community, are not the problem. We talk about our pain. We talk about our struggles. We educate and sensitize people to what we are going through.
Life With Grief
Huge thanks to this anonymous follower for giving us a glimpse into her world over the last few weeks. 💔 (some details have been changed to protect her anonymity)
Functioning at 30%
To those of you who are functioning at 30% right now, we see you. We know how hard it is to get through another day. But know this - You are seen. You are loved. And you are safe here.
How Do I Know When I’m Healed?
“We just learn to carry it better. There isn't a ‘remission’ for us per se or one specific day where I suddenly get to say I'm over it because I'll never be ‘over it.’”
At Some Point
Grief is the thing that underlies all of the work that we do. Grief about the lost expectations of what your life was "supposed to" look like. We are here for all of it.
Growing From The Pain
Loss doesn’t have to “make you stronger.” You don’t have to “grow” from the pain. With loss, all there is to do is survive and make it through each day.
Grief Steals a Part of You Away Forever
For National Grief Awareness Day we want to take a moment and acknowledge that grief if not easy, it is not simple, and there is no "right" way to grieve.
Due Date
Even in the midst of crisis, due dates still come and go. This is one woman’s experience thinking about her due date. “The day is creeping upon me again.”
I’ll Always Miss Her
Everyone has different preferences when navigating the unimaginable heartbreak of pregnancy or infant loss. Swipe to read one woman’s personal thoughts and preferences.
Grief and Reimagining a Future Family
Grief is deep. Grief is more than missing the person you’ve lost. It’s about everything else you’ve lost as a result. It’s about accepting a different future than you pictured for yourself.