Everyone has different preferences when navigating the unimaginable heartbreak of pregnancy or infant loss.
Swipe to read one woman’s personal thoughts and preferences.
”When people speak about my daughter, I prefer if they say that she “died.”
I don’t like “lost.”
Like she was misplaces or somehow missing in action.
She was alive, she isn’t anymore.
She died.
If people thought of her as a person who died, they would understand a little bit more why she is so missed and why I continue to grieve.
It was not just something that happened; She was a person.
She should have had a birthday, friends, likes and dislikes.
I want people to know that I think about her basically all day every day, so there’s no such thing as reaching out too much or brining her up too much.
I want people to ask if I want to talk about her. If Isay no, great, but I’ll probably say yes.
And please, use her name.
I also worry that if I get pregnant again, people will think I’m “all better,” but I know that any future pregnancy will be extremely complicated with layers of emotion.
I’ll always miss her.
She can never be replaced.