F*** Hashem & F*** Segulos
“ I am so so done. So finished when people always say Hashem this and Hashem that. He can go ******** because I am done. It’s so not fair. I hate G-d.”
Shofar Of Infertility
“The shofar’s sounds accomplish many things: it awakens us, expresses our cries, inspires us, and tells the story of our matriarchs and heroines that we read on Rosh Hashana.”
Rosh Hashana is a Funny Holiday
Rosh Hashana is a funny holiday because after we spend 3 hours in shul crying and begging for a baby, we head over to a friend’s house for lunch and talk about which apple is the best.
Mental Health and the Holidays
Thank you Rav Yoni Rosensweig for these incredible words of chizuk/strength about mental health and the high holidays with a few reminders.
"Those Who Sow in Tears Will Reap in Joy"
This moving piece from Rachel Rosenthal so eloquently weaves together the pain and joy of the holidays and life through the lens of infertility and loss.
Anger Towards G-d
Especially during the time of the Yamim Tovim when our year is laid out for us by G-d, you may feel anger towards G-d for choosing infertility and loss for you and for causing you pain year after year.
Don’t Ask Anyone If They Are Fasting… Ever.
Tonight begins Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year. And sometimes more than the themes of atonement and forgiveness, people tend to focus on the food...or lack thereof.
Forgiveness
Sometimes we forget how powerful forgiveness can be when we are in a dark place. Even in the face of the unforgivable - it’s important to remember that forgiveness is not just for THEM, it’s also for YOU.
“Last Year I Stood In Shul”
A letter to G-d from a member of the community before Yom Kippur. “Dear G-d…. I call out to you from the bottom of my heart, please bless me with a better year. Fondly, your daughter.”
This Year
To those of you who have found enough peace to make it through the holidays, we support you. To those of you feeling deep deep pain and struggling to make sense of it all, we support you too.
You Will Get Through This
Yom Kippur just ended, Sukkot is coming in 3 days, next week starts Infant & Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month?!? You are going to get through this.
Holding Different Emotions
Just because you are sad about one part in your life doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy other parts, especially during holidays. It’s OK to hold different emotions at once.
It’s OK to Say No
Here’s a message for Chol Hamoed but also all the time: Go easy on yourself. Just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you HAVE to. It’s ok to say no.
Sukkot Reflections
Swipe to read this beautiful voice from the community about the profound impact of this community and how the sukkot holiday has impacted this follower.
Responding To Invasive Questions
How To Respond To Invasive Questions.Swipe to read some ways you can respond when Bubby asks you “Nu… when are you going to give me a great-grandchild? You aren’t getting any younger!”
Surviving Thanksgiving
How To Survive Thanksgiving. The reality is that you can’t control others. What you can control is how you approach the situation and how you protect yourself.
You Will Get Through This
No one thought there could possibly be a pure jug of oil left after the Greeks defiled the Temple. But there was. Here’s to surviving really hard things. Happy Chanukah.
Chanukah Emotions
Swipe to read this beautiful voice from the community about the profound impact of this community and how the sukkot holiday has impacted this follower.
Chanukah is Hard
We hear you. Chanukah is hard. You are not alone if you feel this way. We compiled your responses to how you are feeling about Chanukah approaching.
Chanukah: Light And Dark
As we enter into the holiday of Chanukah, the holiday of light, let's acknowledge that there is still darkness. Light and dark can coexist. They both have their place in our lives.