“Are you Pregnant” Question
Why do people even ask??
Pregnancy After Loss | Intrusive Questions | PAL
8 PAL Reminders
Pregnancy after loss is a mental challenge as well as a physical one
Here are some things to remind yourself on the harder days
PAL | Fertility Journey | Grief | Mental Health
We are not in control
Each step takes effort
Putting one foot in front of the other is easier than it sounds
We're here for you through it all
Family Planning | Jewish Community | Pregnancy After Loss | Control
Letting go of our preconceived notions
Letting go of our preconceived notions and hopes is so hard
Pregnancy After Loss | PAL | Grief & Loss | Hope
Being Honest
You can share your honest thoughts and feelings, but you don't have to
If you prefer to skip it, simply redirect
Texting | Fertility Journey | Pregnancy After Loss | Mental Health | Jewish Community
PAL is…
What is Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) in the real world? It's hope and fear in equal measure. Holding space for grief and joy. It's so much wrapped up in one label.
It's hard to explain, but here you don't need to explain it
PAL | Fertility Journey | Grief | Hopey
What does pregnancy after loss look like?
Pregnancy after loss (PAL) can feel surreal and impossible to believe
Having to share the news eventually is scary, and we're here for you
PAL | Grief | Infertility | Fertility Journey
Dear Mikvah
Dear Mikvah—
Thank you @shoshanastavsky for your words. You are not alone 🫂
Mikvah | Waiting | Validation | Loss | Ritual | Community | Support
“Double Grief” of Grandparents
There is a unique, quiet kind of heartbreak in being a grandmother who is grieving a loss while trying to hold her own child upright
Swipe to read a story of grief from the perspective of those supporting others in their journey.
Grandparents | Loss | Grief | Community Support | Jewish Life | Empathy | Holding Space | Waiting
Compounded Loss
Swipe to read through this powerful piece about infertility, loss, and grief.
Leave some love for this follower in the comments below ❤️🩹
Tied | infertility | fertility journey | Jewish women | miscarriage | Jewish infertility
Before you share the resource…Read this
So how long should you wait before you share that thing?
The one that you really think could help and you’re really sure no one else has told them about it already?
And you’re really sure they haven’t tried to ChatGPT for their problem already? That they don’t know how to google search?
Wait until later.
Maybe it’s not until the next time you speak. Or see each other. And then you gently say, “Hey, you know I was thinking about our conversation from last time, and I was wondering if you…”
Or maybe you don’t bring it up until they share something with you about it again.
-bottom line- the important thing is that you hold space for them when theirs breaking down. Period. Don’t try to fix them. Save your advice for sometime later.
Infertility | miscarriage | pregnancy loss| how to support |how to be sensitive -| grandparents | Jewish family ~ Jewish | fertility struggles | IVF
Silence can feel like a secondary loss
Reminder: if you ignore the uncomfortable, then you’re contributing to the pain.
The question is how to be supportive, but not pushy, judgey or insensitive.
Do you want people to acknowledge that you’re going through something? Even if it’s just a “I’m thinking of you?” Or do you prefer that people just pretend nothing is going on?
Infertility | pregnancy loss| frum | Jewish | fertility journey | IVF | baby loss
Baby Loss Reminders
A Brief Reminder on What To Say vs. What Not To Say To Someone After Pregnancy Loss ❤️
Remember, those struggling with grief after pregnancy loss are not looking for silver linings after loss, they just want to feel validated & supported. No matter how far along, how young they may be, how long they’ve been trying, how many losses they’ve had, how many children they have, or how easily pregnancy came to them, their loss matters and their grief is valid ❤️
Grief | grieving mom | infertility | miscarriage | pregnancy loss | stillbirth | infant loss
Ways to memorialize the babies we have lost
Here are some things the IWSTHAB community does to memorialize the babies we have lost ❤️🩹
grief | infant loss | pregnancy loss | miscarriage | stillbirth | memorial | fertility clinic | life after loss | pregnancy after loss
Unhelpful comments
Spoiler alert: we don’t.
Fertility Journey
Someone else’s fertility journey isn’t the place for your dreams of grandkids, nieces, or nephews.
Read the room
Read the room. Some of us are still waiting for what you’re complaining about.
Pain changes people
We do not care that we’ve changed. Pain changes people—and we’re still here.
My Sweet Little Neshama
My Sweet Little Neshama
The Void
Thank you to this follower for sharing this beautifully devastating poem 💔🫂