A Black Mother’s Journey P2
In some spaces, strength is defined by how much we can carry in silence.
But for many Black women, that "strength" can feel like a heavy requirement with an unspoken pressure to just push through.
Thank you, Aliza Bracha, for sharing your powerful voice and story. This is part 2 of 2.
@alizabracha holds a bachelor’s degree in journalism from Oakland University and a master’s in social work from Wayne State University. She is also pursuing a second master’s degree in edu from @michiganstateu in P-12 schools and postsecondary leadership & special ed. She's held leadership roles in several metro Detroit Jewish orgs and is dedicated to supporting her community through both clinical work and advocacy. She lives in Oak Park, MI with her husband, Aryeh, and their twins, Meira Chana & Shlomo Aharon.
A Black Mother’s Journey P1
In some spaces, strength is defined by how much we can carry in silence.
But for many Black women, that "strength" can feel like a heavy requirement with an unspoken pressure to just push through.
Thank you, Aliza Bracha, for sharing your powerful voice and story. This is part 1 of 2.
@alizabracha holds a bachelor’s degree in journalism from Oakland University and a master’s in social work from Wayne State University. She is also pursuing a second master’s degree in edu from @michiganstateu in P-12 schools and postsecondary leadership & special ed. She's held leadership roles in several metro Detroit Jewish orgs and is dedicated to supporting her community through both clinical work and advocacy. She lives in Oak Park, MI with her husband, Aryeh, and their twins, Meira Chana & Shlomo Aharon.
Pregnancy Announcement Personal Story
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Pregnancy announcements | trigger | secondary infertility | ttc | ivf | pregnancy anxiety
Secrecy vs Privacy
What’s the difference between secrecy and privacy?
Privacy refers to your personal boundaries about your history, thoughts, opinions, and experiences, separate from your partner and relationship. Secrecy, on the other hand, involves something that you are intentionally hiding.
In this scenario, the hiding comes because you know your news will hurt, so you think by not sharing your pregnancy, that will prevent her from finding out.
But here’s the thing.
You can’t hide a baby forever. And when she does eventually find out, she will be hurt that you didn’t share this detail of your life. She will think that you don’t care about her enough to share happy moments, even if she’s sad. She will think you don’t value her friendship.
And she will most likely never share anything sensitive with you again.
So, is the initial discomfort of sharing your news worth it?
Pregnancy announcement | be sensitive | no secrets | infertility | fertility clinic | fertility support
Pregnancy announcement
Back to Basics: How am I supposed to share the news of my own pregnancy when I know my sister/friend/cousin, is experiencing infertility? I don’t want to hurt them!
We’ve complied a carousel of suggestions on how and when you should tell your person that you are pregnant.
And the last part of this is…
⭐️Don’t get upset when your person doesn’t get back to you immediately.
⭐️Please don’t be mad when she doesn’t acknowledge your pregnancy.
⭐️Don’t hold a grudge if she doesn’t come to a baby shower or bris; Your pregnancy/baby is triggering her. She’s doing what she can to survive and your job is to be her friend no matter what.
Did we miss any? Let us know in the comments...
Pregnancy announcement | infertility | fertility support | grief | what to say | how to support
You’re Allowed To Complain
A follower who has been suffering for years with infertility, and recently got pregnant wrote this to me, after reading how some people are triggered when hearing people complain.
Pregnant After Loss Tips
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This is Pregnancy After Loss
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Supporting Someone Pregnant After Loss
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Pregnancy After Infertility PSA
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Pregnancy After Infertility
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This is Pregnancy After Loss
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Pregnancy Thoughts
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Anxiety About Sharing Pregnancy News
Pregnancy announcements...When should you share? How should you share? To whom should you share? They're so hard for so many reasons.
Thoughts When Someone Asks “Are You Pregnant?”
You run into your old college roommate Hannah whom you haven’t seen in ages. You start catching up and she immediately asks “OMG are you finally pregnant??”
Making Pregnancy Announcements
We asked the IWSTHAB community about making pregnancy announcements and how they feel about pregnancy announcements. How, Who, and When.
Responding When Someone Asks If You Are Pregnant
However you choose to respond when someone asks if you are pregnant is perfectly okay. And remember, YOU get to choose how to respond. If it feels right to tell them, go for it!
How To Respond When Someone Asks “Are You Pregnant?”
Here are some ways to respond if someone asks you that dreadful question and you aren’t ready to answer with the full truth.
Pregnant But…
Even for people that get pregnant after infertility or loss, there are many conflicting emotions: gratefulness, guilt, fear, anxiety, hope. You can hold space for the positive and negative emotions.