That’s what Matters Most
That’s what matters most ❤️🫂
Dear Mikvah
Dear Mikvah—
Thank you @shoshanastavsky for your words. You are not alone 🫂
Mikvah Voices From The Community
For anyone who has ever dreaded the water, feared the touch, or cried alone in their car after doing “what you’re supposed to do”... You are not alone. You never were.
We’re sharing this with permission, so others might feel less invisible.
Mikvah Confessions
Mikvah Night isn’t always joyful…
“The world tells us mikvah night is magical. The night of possibility, of connection. But what if it’s also the night of pressure? Of dread? Of crying in the car on the way there because you’re scared of more disappointment? You’re not broken if it feels this way. You’re human.”
If mikvah night feels hard — what do you wish people understood?
Mikvah
Mikvah - it’s beautiful, it’s magical, it’s triggering, it’s complicated, it’s painful. It can be all of these things when you’re trying to have a baby.
Rituals
There can be comfort in the consistency of ritual.
There’s comfort in the rhythm, in the embrace of the water.
Nothing is happening at the pace I would choose, but there is an opportunity for a resurgence of hope and the possibility of new beginnings.
But there’s also pain—
the grief of dipping again when you wished this month would be different. Mikvah and taharat hamishpacha aren’t simple.
They carry both hope and heartache.
Surviving the Two Week Wait
Remember to take care of yourself during the wait… even if all you really want to do is hide in bed and take a test every hour.
Mother’s Day Is Hard
Mother’s Day is hard. There’s a million questions, and barely any answers.
Who is a mother to you?
Mother’s Day Can Be Complicated
Mother’s Day can be complicated, and love is in the little things.
Mental Health Care
All of it counts. All of it matters.
Take Care of Yourself
There is so so much going on right now. It’s overwhelming beyond belief. Even in the midst of this chaos, try your best to take a moment and do something to take care of yourself.
When The Pain Feels Loud
Even on the days that seem like you’re standing still, don’t forget all the things you’re doing to move forward and through your pain.
Men are Half the Equation
Men are half the equation when it comes to making a baby…and they carry half the heartbreak too. Just because they don’t talk about it as much, doesn’t mean that they’re not aching.
How Men Deal with Fertility Stuff
We asked the I Was Supposed To Have A Baby Community how the men in their life are dealing with fertility stuff. Here are some of the responses.
Big Feelings
You’re allowed to have big feelings, even if you don’t get an award for them.
You Are Worth It
You were worth it. All of it.
Mindfulness
When the waiting feels heavy and anxiety creeps in, take a moment to pause. Breathe.
When The World Feels Heavy
When The World Feels Heavy
Try To Let Go
Try to let go of the “what ifs” and the idea that things could have happened differently.
Children’s Books
Children’s books we recommend