Irrational things about infertility
Infertility is making huge efforts and they don’t necessarily pay off in the way we hoped – and the pain is real
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I’m not supposed to grieve…
Waiting and waiting and waiting
For what feels like forever.
It’s not fair, but you are not alone 🫂
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Infertility is…
Infertility is… all of this 🫂
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This is not your whole story
The “stuckness” can be all consuming sometimes, but this chapter is not your whole story, and we are here for all of it.
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New year same problems
New year, same problems.
People make New Year’s resolutions, take on new mitzvos, try new exercise routines…hoping to change, before settling back into the same old habits within a few days.
For anyone trying to have a baby, another year means nothing. It’s just about trying to make it through another day, another week, another month, etc a pray that this year will be different.
They’re still carrying the same pain, trauma and heartache- Even though nothing has changed.
So, please…be kind to everyone who is still waiting, hoping and wishing.
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Reflecting on your year
Another year of
Hoping
Grieving
Dreaming
Waiting
And you’re going to get through whatever comes next. Promise ❤️
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How to open your arms to others
Here are just a few simple ways to make people feel more included during Chanukah (or any time) 🫂
If our work has moved you, inspired you, or reminded you that no one should face this pain alone, please make a gift today.
Your support literally determines how far our light can go.
Help us reach farther this year.
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Men grieve and process emotions differently
Often, the men in our lives suffer silently and alone.
Men grieve and process emotions differently.
Whether you are the spouse, parent, sibling, or friend to a man going through infertility or loss, please know that even if he seems ok on the outside, he is struggling too ❤️🩹
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Bravery feels like Fear
I read this quote earlier in the week, and couldn’t help thinking about PAL, because it’s all about bravery and courage, every single day, every single hour, every single minute.
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Pregnancy After Loss Mantras
You are going to get through this.
You are going to get through this.
You are going to get through this.
Promise ❤️
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Anxious. So anxious
This is what pregnancy after loss looks like.
Raw. Unfiltered.
The anxiety, guilt, and worry are so strong. We fight to feel that hope and trust in Gd that this time will be different, but it’s hard.
We are praying for all of you.
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My Anxiety:
Pregnancy after loss: where every cramp is a crisis, every symptom (or lack of one) is a mystery, and ‘just relax’ is the least helpful advice of all time. If you’re holding your breath between appointments, you’re not alone.
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The emotions of pregnancy after loss
This is pregnancy after loss ❤️🩹
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Normal question turned complicated
What may have seemed like a normal question before infertility or loss now is so much more complicated to answer…
Aren’t you excited to be pregnant again and have a baby??
Yes… but also no…
Is this pregnancy going to end with a living baby?
Will I get to finally use that room I dedicated to be a nursery the first time I was pregnant?
Am I ever going to ✨feel✨like this is really going to happen for me?
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I’m scared
The years that I kept losing baby after baby are a blur.
I don’t remember much about family get-togethers or political events, and large swaths of time are just gone from my memory.
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What I do remember is the fear.
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I spent years in a perpetual state of panic, feeling traumatized by our experience with secondary infertility, not knowing if I was ever going to be able to get pregnant again. And then once I did finally see those pink lines, I had a momentary period of elation, which was followed almost immediately by a permanent state of sheer terror. I was certain that I would lose this baby too.
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Pregnancy after loss, or after infertility, is a kind of sick holding pattern, that doesn’t let up until you have a baby in your arms. It’s crippling, and makes you lose sense of all that is good and positive. You pray and hope that things will be different this time, while steeling yourself against what seems like the inevitable.
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Your world narrows and you only think about one thing: Today, my baby is still alive. And you don’t relax until you hear that first cry.
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How are you handling your pregnancy after infertility or after loss? What are some of the emotions you are going through?
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You can do this
You can do this. You can do this. You can do this.
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Posts I have saved this week
Sending all of you love and hugs
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Ways to memorialize the babies we have lost
Here are some things the IWSTHAB community does to memorialize the babies we have lost ❤️🩹
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PSA
PSA 📣
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Nice Texts
When someone you love is going through the unthinkable, here are a few ideas of texts to send them to show them you care 🫂
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