Privacy in Surrogacy

As a part 2 to our post from earlier, we want to say that of course you get to decide how much or little you share about your surrogacy journey.

To reinforce this, read what Aliza Abrams Konig (@alizaakonig), our wonderful Surrogacy Support Consultant has to say on the topic:

Surrogacy can be kept a secret.

It’s nobody’s business.

It’s up to the family (the parents) to decide how they want to choose to share this information… if they even want to share it. Yes, people are going to realize that someone was not pregnant, and suddenly they have a baby.

But it’s on the community NOT to ask where that baby came from.

In terms of answering questions, again, it’s up to the parents to decide how and what they want to share. They get to choose how much they share with people.

People should be comfortable about keeping this a secret, or at least private.

I think the word “secret” feels a bit “dirty” maybe, so we have to respect people’s choices and not question everybody.

Just like if someone uses IVF to have a baby, nobody needs to know that and nobody needs to share that. They can keep that private, because how would anyone know? It’s the same thing with surrogacy.

Yes - of course, it’s obvious someone didn’t have the baby in their womb, but it’s nobody’s business to ask where that baby came from.

Similarly, even when a baby doesn’t look like the parent, people shouldn’t be asking, “Who does he look like?” or “Who does she look like?’ Maybe it’s an egg donor, etc. We all should keep those sensitivities in mind.

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