Important reminder for everyone in this community, whether you are struggling currently, have a history of infertility or loss, or even if you are supporting someone who has been through this.

Not being able to get pregnant when you want or how you want is trauma.

And the aftershocks of that trauma often stay with a person for years...even after they get pregnant, even after they have a baby, even after they may have many babies.

Because trauma is not something that you can will away. It takes time, effort, sometimes therapy and a lot of TLC.

So please be kind to yourself for feeling all of these feelings and be gentle to others who you have been through this kind of pain.