6 Responses to People Winking At Stomach

These are suggestions based on a live we did a while back. Chani talked about having dignity in your responses when people ask invasive questions, and answering with an unexpected line or deflecting the question.

However, we'd like to add another type of response that we've heard from the IWSTHAb community, as so many of you have gotten more comfortable sharing your truths.

Some of you want to keep your fertility struggles private and that's absolutely okay. But many are getting more comfortable sharing your story, and these kinds of questions present an opportunity to educate people, reminding them that having a baby is not so easy for everyone.

And the bonus is that every time you do share and talk about how it's not very polite to be asking these questions, the person will (hopefully) think twice about asking something like that again. So, you are saving the next person from being embarrassed or hurt by Bubbe Sarah. Win, win!

Whatever you decide, just know that it's possible to educate people on the right questions to ask without divulging any of your stuff. Call them out with the *unexpected* questions and remind them to be more circumspect next time.

We all need to band together if we are going to change the way people act and think in our community!