They Don’t Get It

Let’s just put this out there.

No matter how much your partner thinks they understand, they just don’t.

They see you shooting yourself up with medicine for treatments, but they don’t have the needle anxiety, bruises, side effects, etc.
They may be grieving the loss of your baby as much as you, but they don’t know what it’s like to walk into a doctor’s office thinking everything is fine, feel the cold exam table with the crinkly paper, shudder from the cold ultrasound jelly, and then be told that there’s no heartbeat.

They just don’t.

But, you *can* tell them. Even though it hurts, and sometimes it’s too hard to talk about all the pain and disappointment, even with the person who loves you the most, you need to share.

Because they can’t figure out whether you want to be hugged or left alone unless you communicate. And when you need to scream and yell, you should tell them that it’s not personal; The situation just totally sucks.

They won’t ever get it.
But they can help you get through it.