Often religious guilt comes with the "kind advice" that things would have been different if you only... Sometimes it even comes with a dose of blame - the "you must have done something to cause this" - like maybe it's your dress, your observance, how you pray or don't, etc,

And then compounding the religious guilt is the notion that babies born that young don't matter anyway - depending on how old the baby is, they may not need to be buried, they don't need a separate headstone, a funeral, shiva, etc, according to mainstream Jewish law.

Which is wild because when we think about how much we are allowed to preserve life, even on shabbat, this notion of not taking people's pain seriously and even making it worse with these kinds of comments are just remarkable.

We value life, but we not this life.
We know that G-d controls the world, but still blame people for "mistakes" down here on earth that "caused" the problem.

Sigh.