You Should Tell Them

What’s the difference between secrecy and privacy?

Privacy refers to your personal boundaries about your history, thoughts, opinions, and experiences separate from your partner and relationship. Secrecy, on the other hand, involves something that you are intentionally hiding.

In this scenario, the hiding comes because you know your news will hurt, so you think by not sharing your pregnancy, that will prevent her from finding out.

But here’s the thing.

You can’t hide a baby forever. And when she does eventually find out, she will be hurt that you didn’t share this detail of your life. She will think that you don’t care about her enough to share happy moments, even if she’s sad. She will think you don’t value her friendship.

And she will most likely never share anything sensitive with you again.

So, is the initial discomfort of sharing your news worth it?