193. Not Broken, Just Wired Differently: The Quiet Fertility Struggle No One Talks About

InfertilityMental Health Professionals
Written By Aimee Baron
 

In this episode of Talking Away the Taboo, Dr. Baron is joined by Hadassah Eventsur, an occupational therapist and life coach, for a deeply needed conversation about neurodiversity in Jewish life, and how that contributes to a smaller family size.

Hadassah reached out to name something many women feel but struggle to articulate: the pain of wanting a large family while knowing that undiagnosed ADHD or other neurodivergent traits make the day-to-day demands of parenting feel overwhelming or unsustainable. Dr. Baron names this experience as circumstantial infertility, where the barrier to growing a family isn’t medical, but rooted in capacity, support, and how the world is built.

Hadassah shares her own journey of recognizing her neurodivergence, the coping strategies she developed long before she had language for them, and the shame that so often accompanies doing things “differently.” From challah baking to daily routines, she explains how COVID became a turning point in understanding her brain with more compassion.

 Together, they explore:

  • Why neurodivergent women often feel unseen and unsupported

  • How communal expectations around motherhood can deepen shame

  • The difference between desire and capacity, and why both matter

  • Practical, realistic tools for executive functioning and emotional regulation

  • The power of community over advice, fixes, or judgment

This conversation is for anyone who has ever thought, “I want more, but I don’t know how I’d survive it,” and felt alone in that tension. It’s an invitation to widen how we define infertility, support, and what it means to make thoughtful, loving decisions without shame.

More about Hadassah Eventsur, MS, OTR/L:

Hadassah Eventsur, MS, OTR/L is an Occupational Therapist, Transformational Coach, Mishpacha Magazine contributor on Neurodivergence in adult women and the Founder of MindfullyYou, a Supportive Community for the Frum Neurodiverse Population. 

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- Visit her website Mindfully You and set up an appointment

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