Everyone has different preferences when navigating the unimaginable heartbreak of pregnancy or infant loss.

Swipe to read one woman’s personal thoughts and preferences.

”When people speak about my daughter, I prefer if they say that she “died.”

I don’t like “lost.”

Like she was misplaces or somehow missing in action.

She was alive, she isn’t anymore.

She died.

If people thought of her as a person who died, they would understand a little bit more why she is so missed and why I continue to grieve.

It was not just something that happened; She was a person.

She should have had a birthday, friends, likes and dislikes.

I want people to know that I think about her basically all day every day, so there’s no such thing as reaching out too much or brining her up too much.

I want people to ask if I want to talk about her. If Isay no, great, but I’ll probably say yes.

And please, use her name.

I also worry that if I get pregnant again, people will think I’m “all better,” but I know that any future pregnancy will be extremely complicated with layers of emotion.

I’ll always miss her.

She can never be replaced.