I Was Supposed To Have A Baby

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I’ll Always Miss Her

Everyone has different preferences when navigating the unimaginable heartbreak of pregnancy or infant loss.

Swipe to read one woman’s personal thoughts and preferences.



”When people speak about my daughter, I prefer if they say that she “died.”

I don’t like “lost.”

Like she was misplaces or somehow missing in action.

She was alive, she isn’t anymore.

She died.

If people thought of her as a person who died, they would understand a little bit more why she is so missed and why I continue to grieve.

It was not just something that happened; She was a person.

She should have had a birthday, friends, likes and dislikes.

I want people to know that I think about her basically all day every day, so there’s no such thing as reaching out too much or brining her up too much.

I want people to ask if I want to talk about her. If Isay no, great, but I’ll probably say yes.

And please, use her name.

I also worry that if I get pregnant again, people will think I’m “all better,” but I know that any future pregnancy will be extremely complicated with layers of emotion.

I’ll always miss her.

She can never be replaced.