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After October 7 We Are Not Okay

We are not okay

We are shaken.
Tired.
Sad.
Depressed. Overwhelmed.

We are terrified over what is happening in Israel right now.

We know that so many of you are still in your own private hell...and trying to straddle your personal pain with the collective pain of the Jewish people.

IWSTHAB will stay true to our mission to support you, as we all try to navigate this incredibly difficult and horrifying time.

And while our hearts are breaking for Israel, life outside the immediate war zone continues.

Some of you may feel that it’s inappropriate to complain about your struggle with infertility or loss…

Such as this woman who had a miscarriage right before Rosh Hashana:

“The whole situation in Israel has made my grieving process harder, and it makes me feel selfish trying to focus on my own healing.”

This is called comparative grief. Grieving your own loss can feel shameful in the face of such a horrific trauma.

But emotions do not go away just because they are not “as bad as someone else’s.”

Brene Brown says, “Empathy is the antidote to shame.”

When we can empathize with both ourselves AND everyone in Israel, we create more space for love.

Because empathy is not finite.

We *all* need love and support during tumultuous times,

AND IWSTHAB IS HERE TO BE THAT FOR YOU.