Tonight begins Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year.

And sometimes more than the themes of atonement and forgiveness, people tend to focus on the food...or lack thereof.

What are you eating pre-fast?
You're not having bagels and lox after?
How about grapes or melon?
You like gatorade before?
I can't even eat something heavy when it's done...I only have soup.
It's so hard. How much more time?

And on and on and on and on.

But more than that, all these questions assume that everyone fasts. Which is absolutely not the case.

So here's a quick reminder that it's none of your business if someone is or is not fasting.

So on behalf of everyone who doesn't want to talk about it (in the fertility community and beyond - those with eating disorders or other mental/physical health challenges), please don't ask.

Ever.