I Was Supposed To Have A Baby

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Finding a Balance

It’s interesting.

I’ve been talking about some of the marginalized members of this community this week - the ones who feel the ache of not holding a baby in their arms, but who aren’t trying.

Those who are single.
Divorced.
Widowed.

Not trying yet.
Can’t try.
Won’t try.
Too scared to try.

Because of financial concerns.
Emotional concerns.
Health concerns.

Or whatever the reason.

And I’ve been trying to spread the message that while it’s okay to be sad and long for the ability to try, it’s also okay to makes the most of the moment and not let life pass you by.

So there’s been a lot of positivity memes about living life in the now and appreciating the stage you’re in, instead of wishing that you are in a different stage.

And then I got this message from another handle: “I noticed that when we post positive quotes or posts our interactions are lower. When we post sarcastic, complaining ones, they are through the roof. I know that misery loves company, but I do hope our community can find a balance and that not every positive outlook is toxic.”

And that’s exactly my message to all of you. I will keep sharing the hard, the pain, the horrible, the suffering and the awful.

But I will also share the good.
Because not everything here has to be negative.